my ex, of 6 and a half years, left myself and my 3 children 2 years ago, we both have solicitors to deal with the breakup as we own a house together and other things, i lived, for a year, 2 streets away from him and the woman he went off with, in that year he never once came to see our children (m oldest isnt his but the 2 youngest are) its now been 2 years since he left and even though we have still got solicitors who have said they will deal with contact for him he still has not asked to see them, he was a very strange man indeed, when we were together he was on anti-depressants and then discovered he was mildly schizophrenic so was changed medication, he cut his wrists infront of the children, smashed the house up and i had to have him arrested and removed from the area for fear of our safety, he jumped through the bedroom window trying to kill himslef, if anyone made a noise while he slept he would smack them really hard, at the time we were together our youngest was 22 months old and our second youngest was 4, my oldest being 11, how was i supposed to keep them quiet when it was tea time and all they wanted to do was play with their dad when he came home from work?? he was a complete psycho, but becasue i loved him i stayed because i thought the kids needed their dad as much as their mother, now its been 2 years since he went and he has had no contact at all im worried he will want to see them soon, can i say no? the kids dont know him, they saw a picture of him about 4 months ago, and neither of the younger ones knew who it was, they remember certain things from when we were with him but say they cant remember his face anymore, i dont want their heads being messed up if he decides he wants to see them... can i refuse access on the grounds he was a danger when we were together and the fact he has had nothing to do with them for 2 years and it would just confuse the children? sorry this is long....
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