i can sorta relate to how you are feeling. my stbx is trying for custody with residence of the children with him. it hurts bad. im a good mom and theres NO reason to pluck them from me. his plan is to live with his mom in her 4 bedroom house and have all of his socalled "friends and family" get them to the bus in the morning/afternoon etc. none of his friends and family are taking my kids. it will be a cold day in he.. b4 i let that happen. it isnt like im a bad mom .

He's probably not a bad Dad either. Good Luck, but I just cant believe the opfra assumptions so popular today.

Do you have a lawyer???
I cannot even move provinces without x's permission.
I believe there are argreements between the States and us that prevent cross-bounder child abductions... look into it with the help of a lawyer.
If you can't afford one, there must be some pro-bono services available through the govt.
Best of luck to you...

I do have a really good lawyer, my trial date is in November after thanksgiving. I am just so scared... He is a good Dad and I do not want to take the children from him. They need us both, He has said that he is a better Mother and Father. I would never say I am a better Father!! I was a stay at home Mom before the divorce, and a devoted wife to him. When I realized I was gay, I immediatly told him . He told me he wanted to stay married, but through a lot of counseling we thought it best to divorce. He quit his job, to heal, and I am not making him pay child support, because I felt so guilty that he was hurting. I work now, and my Partner stays home with our 3 year old and 4 year old. He is trying to take them because I am gay and I have a job!! Well someone needs to support our children. I pray and I have hope that he moves near us. My kids will miss him terribly. He is a good Dad, I just think he is still really mad at me for leaving???

Get a lawyer and check your divorce decree, typically one parent can not move with out the permission of the court.

If that is true, have him arrested.

Talk to an attorney, not legal, I dont think.. And look into "Geographical Limitation."

It is so complicated, when I first was separated, We shared custody, because he quit his job, so I let him have the kids every other week. I gave him 6 months to find a job, so he did not have to pay child support, We shared a lawyer from the very beginning, you see we agreed if we ALWAYS put the kids first, then we would not be nasty about things. Well he decided he wanted to move to Canada and not come back??? and wants my kids there, knowing darn well I cant live their or work, I work in the States, and am not a Canadian Resident. He is a Canadian Citizen but an American Resident. ??? I think he is working under the table in Canada,?? He thinks that it will be better if my Kids are away from me and with him!!

---And look into "Geographical Limitation." ----

As I said talk to an attorney who KNOWS this kind of stuff.

As far as "Geographical Limitation." goes, we could say that any court action would not be valid in another nation, and shit lets all just take kids and run off.

If you have a custody plan the requires you both have visitiation, to remove them from the area is kidnapping.

I dont know where this guys gets his ideas from "Geographical Limitation."

But you talk with another attorney, not the same one.

Why cant you work in canada, there are many people who do ?

And, you will have to get nasty if you want to see your kids. Other wise you may was well let him have them and leave them all alone.

Now, the gay thing gets me. I can understand he likely felt very betrayed and lost a wife for no fault of his own.

So, may be it is HIM who needs to get away from you.

Time to seek legal advice dear.

It is in my Divorce agreement.. I can not move out of the Lower Mainland of the Province of BC without his knowledge...or consultation.

I have notified US Customs that HE is not to travel across the Border with the kids without my authorization. A letter from a lawyer or notary.
I suspect he wants to flee to Mexico with them.

I would suggest you talk to your lawyer.. but also contact Canada Customs.. and notify them of a custody dispute and that you have Custody of the children.. he will be flagged at the Border.

a call to Canada Customs and Revenue is easy to make... notify them he might attempt to cross into Canada with the children.