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My wife and I are getting a divorce. I'm relatively young at 28 years old. My wife doesn't seem upset about splitting up and seems rather upbeat. That makes me feel bad. She had been dating a doctor for the last few weeks of our marriage and that makes me feel inadequate. I don't have a lot of energy and feel tired but can't sleep. I don't know if this is a normal feeling or not. She told me she wanted a divorce yesterday and it's still fresh and very emotional for me. We live in the same town as her family so she has people to be with. I don't really have any friends because my wife was my only friend. I am very lonely and feel bad for calling my family for comfort so much because I don't want to be needy or seem weak. I'm having lots of trouble handling all the emotion I feel. I also feel scared about the future and I'm nervous about selling our house and splitting up our possessions.
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I'm so sorry you are having to go thru this. I would say that what you are feeling is pretty normal. It's even harder when you don't have family or friends nearby. Coming to DS is a great first step. I would also suggest getting counseling with your pastor &/or a therapist. They can be of great help & comfort at this time. I know everyone says to give it time, and that doesn't help you to feel better, but it will, in time. Sometimes you will take one step forward and two back. Other times you'll take two steps forward. So please hang in there and stick with DS, you'll find lots of support here. Hugs!
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I am sorry your wife turned out to be a cheater; she will find it hard to get anyone else with a brain to marry her.

You are grief-stricken, so this can interfere with your sleep and energy levels. Do not be too proud to rely on your family for help. That is one of the things family is for. Try to find a divorce support group. And stick around here.
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Don't feel bad about calling your family! I haven't been very close with my family for years, but they opened up their hearts to me when I came to them for support. The moment I spoke with them was the moment I started feeling better about things.
Carm416
Carm416
What you are experiencing is a normal process of divorcing, however compounded by the fact that your significant other cheated. Why are you feeling inadequate? Surely, she is the one with the problem. She sought a male out of her marriage to be intimately with emotional or/and or sexual. The fact that she cheated says alot about her character. To help you with the process maybe you should seek a therapist. It also sounds like you are feeling depressed. Internal peace, good health and Love Carm416
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wow your at the very beginning of the process. your choosing not to call your family because you don't want to feel needy, everyone needs support and comfort for any given reason. don't shut them out. this is such a hard thing to go through, we are all here for you, because we all know the feelings your going through. they are all part of the process. but don't shut out the people that do love you, let them be there for you.
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