I know how you feel I am still deeply in love with my husband and he is not in love with me anymore and that is the hardest thing i have yet had to face. In order for you to heal and to have a healthy relationship in the future you MUST come to peace with this and you must learn how to be happy on your own. Do not get into another relationship to heal the pain. Once you have healed, grown and have learned to love yourself, then you can think about another relationship.

I agree don't rush into anything. You will only get hurt again. You need to heal yourself before you move on.
This is a great time to focus on you. Do the things you like doing but your x didn't want to. As soon as I get my own house I am getting a dog. My h is allergic and my daughter and I would love to have a dog, maybe even a furry cat to make sure he never comes over.

Its been a long time since I was happy on my own. Before I met her I was extremely depressed for and wasnt being very nice to myself. How do I come to peace with it? I dont want to go on like this.

I am doing something now that I never thought I would do, or need to do. And that is to see a therapist. You may want to consider this too. Talk about what happened to you, how you feel, how to heal. This may help you feel better about yourself as a person, and to get over shyness. I also do agree with others comments here. Do NOT try to get into a relationship too soon. Wait heal. Now is time to find out who YOU are as a person. From all this, you will emerge a better stronger person.

I cant afford to go to see a therapist, which is why I am here. I dont do well in face to face conversations so its really hard for me to find someone to talk to.

Brian, maybe go talk to a local pastor. They are usually pretty good to offer support etc.

Brian, your so young, so much life to explore and experience. My heart goes out to you. Please draw strength from all who are here and DO CARE. They say only time heals the pain, and to be honest I wish at times I could go to sleep until next yr. However, life is so short and If I were "sleeping" I might miss a little bit of happiness? Hang in there!

I have been trying to stay positive. I have been hearing that alot, that only time will heal the pain. I should be going out tonight with my friends and paintballing on sunday. So I hope I can keep the good mood this weekend should put me in. I noticed that staying busy helps alot. Thank you all for your help so far.