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Moving in Together

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My ex is buying a unit at the moment and I'm so happy for him. He is only 20 and has been wanting this for such a long time. But she is moving in with him, I always suspected she would but found out for sure today. And it's not fair. He always told me he didnt want me too move in with him, he always told me he doesnt live with girlfriends because it always ruins everything. Why does he want to live with her. How can she be so different to me, how can she be so much better than me that he wants to be with her everyday. They have only been together for 6 months (this time)and she broke his heart once before so why does he love her so much more than me. I hate knowing every night he goes home she will be there, everything they do with be together now. Living together seems so final to me. He obviously wants to be with her forever. His life is going to be perfect forever now, he'll always have someone and will never experience this pain that I am....it's not fair
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I cant do this anymore. I havent cried this hard for a long time, i cant stop thinking about it. And I'm so nagry with myself. Why do I have to be so nice to him all the time, I should have ignored him when he was talking to me. I want him to know how angry and hurt I am. I want him to know that I remember what he said to me even if he doesnt. I want to ask him why he changed his mind, i want to tell him how hurt i am....
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Megs, I feel your pain. Truely. My STBX moved out in June, she got a townhouse rental for her and the kids. By the end of Septmember the OM had moved in with her and his kids are there part time. She had said she wasn't rushing things. I am left in the house to deal with the mess left behind and sell it.

It's not fair. Then she had the nerve the other week to suggest I have my GF move in with me to help with the bills. I am no where near ready to make that commitment.
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i too can feel your pain. all the things the ex said to me, quickly how they change. please stop thinking what is wrong with you, it's not you, it's him. you have to move on away from this as much as it hurts. think it through and then get rid of it, it will only keep you hanging on, questions that you will never have answers to. i know you don't believe this, but there is something so much better waiting out there for you. don't give up hope, grieve and move on.
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Why do they say all these things then change? Why same them in the first place I dont understand. Well he got the unit today and of course the first person he called was her. And I know he is at her place now. I don't want to think about them living together but I dont know how to stop? Everytime I try and tell myself it doesnt matter i just remember all the stuff he said to me and i get so angry and cry. Anyone have any suggestions, I just keep asking why, why WHY
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