I think you need to let him go .He is not ready for a comitment and he is telling you very clearly he is not into you .let it go..work on fixing your own problems and geting your self in a good place then you are more likly to atract a man who is up to the chalange and good for you...If he is right for you he will come back later but in the meantime work on your self because being happy is very atractive.

thank you stephanie for your input. I am now working on fixing my problems. Although I think your response is good, I hate to say this because I know that it looks like I'm making excuses for him, but it's so complicated. He has been so rejected even by his mother and he never kept in touch with anyone. He blocked out best friends he had known all his life. I know this is a horrible situation for me right now and I am thinking that he has left for good and he doesn't even like me. But as we have split up before, I told him how I felt and he didn't respond, but later I found him crying privately. I think he's hurting so much, I cannot help him out because he doesn't let me in, but I can wait and give him time I guess if I decide to. But I just don't know if it's different this time and he just doesn't want me at all anymore. Goh! It's so hard trying to explain this thing in a short space because there have been so many things that have happened it has all become so complicated, and eveytime I say something I sound like a sap who can't let go but it's not like that, it's just that there's a massive story. I probably am being a sap anyway, I just don't know I'm confused by everything.

this probably has nothing to do with you. it's him, he closes himself off to you. he chose to move away. he does not want to talk to you or he would call you, please forgive me if i sound harsh, what he is doing has nothing to do with you. he is doing what he wants for himself. please love and respect yourself. you deserve better than this.