
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I've broken up with a guy who although we had so much in common and had so much fun when we were together, was scared of committment. Not in the usual man way, but I think it's because of something that happened to him. Although I don't know because he closes off about talking. We've broken up a few times, and every time we do he tries to ignore me and if we meet up he tries to make it as short as possible. If we spend any length of time together, he ends up kissing me and wants tobe with me. I know it's because o his issues and it's not fair on me, but I have had issues myself so I want to be a bit understanding. We broke up recently because I threw a hissy fit and went mad- it was entirely my fault. He was going to be moving away in a few weeks because he had so badly cocked up other areas of his life. But now he has moved away, and I had to find out from his mother. I am dying inside. What do you think about this? He has no contact with me now. Is this just another thing he does to hide how he feels? Or is this his way of saying it's so over for ever and he just wants to be apart from me? Please help me, I feel so alone and I feel sick all the time.

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I think you need to let him go .He is not ready for a comitment and he is telling you very clearly he is not into you .let it go..work on fixing your own problems and geting your self in a good place then you are more likly to atract a man who is up to the chalange and good for you...If he is right for you he will come back later but in the meantime work on your self because being happy is very atractive.

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thank you stephanie for your input. I am now working on fixing my problems. Although I think your response is good, I hate to say this because I know that it looks like I'm making excuses for him, but it's so complicated. He has been so rejected even by his mother and he never kept in touch with anyone. He blocked out best friends he had known all his life. I know this is a horrible situation for me right now and I am thinking that he has left for good and he doesn't even like me. But as we have split up before, I told him how I felt and he didn't respond, but later I found him crying privately. I think he's hurting so much, I cannot help him out because he doesn't let me in, but I can wait and give him time I guess if I decide to. But I just don't know if it's different this time and he just doesn't want me at all anymore. Goh! It's so hard trying to explain this thing in a short space because there have been so many things that have happened it has all become so complicated, and eveytime I say something I sound like a sap who can't let go but it's not like that, it's just that there's a massive story. I probably am being a sap anyway, I just don't know I'm confused by everything.

deleted_user
this probably has nothing to do with you. it's him, he closes himself off to you. he chose to move away. he does not want to talk to you or he would call you, please forgive me if i sound harsh, what he is doing has nothing to do with you. he is doing what he wants for himself. please love and respect yourself. you deserve better than this.
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