If you find out, let me know. I am having no luck in that area.

Plus, it takes me a while to get to know someone so I am never sure how to start off a new friendship. I am always thrilled when someone calls or invites me to lunch, dinner, etc. But I always feel like I am intruding when I call them.

It is difficult to meet someone, but just be friendly, outgoing and talk to women out there, and everywhere. But really, they seem to just come out of nowhere, when you're not looking!

Listen to C. she's right they always come along when you are not looking. But if you are looking then what are you into? find something you have a passion for with a social life...reading groups, gyms.

For me in the past, it started with one friend who introduce to her/his friend who later then introduced to his/her friend and soon I had this huge circle of friends and aquaintances and managed to get a few dates out of it. But like with "C", it was when I was not looking that I found STBX and again, I was attending a party with a friend who introduced me to other friends and STBX was one of them. So go out with friends and meet others. Keep increasing the circle. Some will be friends, some will be acquaintences. Just keep at it.

The suggestion I keep hearing is to get involved with groups who share common interests with you. If you like to bike, join a bike club. If you like to read, join a book club. If you like to hike, join a hiking club. That way you meet people and they may not be people you would date but they have friends who you might date. It's the networking thing, so to speak.

Hi Stevenkc... I was the person that started the other dating discussion and as I indicated in my initial intro... I've been talking to guys on the internet in chat rooms, through blog sites etc. For me it is comfortable talking to people and getting into discussions of common interests. There is flirting of course and it is fun! Of course there are lots of jerks out there.. that you just have to ignore and weed out... actually some of them are ridiculously funny and so obsurd that you just want to write back and tell them they are jerks and stupid for even saying or suggesting things. Anyway it is not bad way to start. Mostly I talk to guys in other states... so I feel pretty safe. Also talk to nice women and they advise who and what to watch out for among other things.
Then the other suggestion I have is to get involved in actvity groups that interest you...I just joined a divorce support group.. they have education sessions about rebuilding your life plus it gets me out there to mingle with new people. The other things I am doing or planning to be involved in is local political groups, photography club and community volunteering. Don't get me wrong; I am not getting involved with the groups just to meet guys. I am truly interested.... keeps me busy and learning something.. plus one never knows who you might meet. Good Luck!

I agree with PatCat. Although we may not want to admit it, the dating scene has gone Electronic. I've joined a few dating sites and met a few frogs but the most recent man I met (who I really like because I'm not looking for a relationship and neither is he) was on MySpace of all places!