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I looked at the clock and just knew that it was time to start chopping onions and celery...omg, I may be 3,000 miles away, but it is still hurting.
My middle son called and I couldn't answer. I let it go to voice mail. I don't want to know where he and his father are spending tomorrow. I thing I already know...I don't need the added insult.
At what point does my "being Happy" outweigh the loss of my Life? My children will NEVER again be in a room together. STBX only Approved of One, so he takes Him to his side. Our middle son hangs with the first wifes family-so stbx's family is comfy with him. It is Lunacy. I have hated this for 7 years. I have fought it bitterly and am Happy to be Done with it...
I am Thankful on so many parts of this...but I miss my Family. The "nice guy" that I hear from on the phone-I like him...but he isn't who I was married to.
I am so damned confused and hurt right now. I HATE the holidays. They have Always sucked and now they are even Worse.
My middle son called and I couldn't answer. I let it go to voice mail. I don't want to know where he and his father are spending tomorrow. I thing I already know...I don't need the added insult.
At what point does my "being Happy" outweigh the loss of my Life? My children will NEVER again be in a room together. STBX only Approved of One, so he takes Him to his side. Our middle son hangs with the first wifes family-so stbx's family is comfy with him. It is Lunacy. I have hated this for 7 years. I have fought it bitterly and am Happy to be Done with it...
I am Thankful on so many parts of this...but I miss my Family. The "nice guy" that I hear from on the phone-I like him...but he isn't who I was married to.
I am so damned confused and hurt right now. I HATE the holidays. They have Always sucked and now they are even Worse.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
But you are so brave, Tami. Look what you've already done. Next year at this time you will start your own new traditions and I'm betting you figure out a way to have your family with you! (((Hugs)))
How many people live directly on the beach? Maybe you can do something surrounding the beach? Or how about volunteering serving meals at a brand new church or surprise someone in a Nursing Home with a Hot Home Made Meal...the possibilities are endless!
He wanted to talk about what Credit Cards I wanted to take over. Hmmmmm, he offered to pay them off. That is in our Agreement. Why on Earth would I want to pull one out and start paying on it???
Not only that, but he waited until it was just about MY bedtime to do this, just like he used to do during the marriage.
He NEVER discussed Business during Business hours. He REFUSED. He would do it when I went to Bed. Want me to get up and come out to the office and get to Work. Find this, do that, make decissions.
Suddenly I was VERY THANKFUL to be able to tell him that I was half asleep and end that damned phone call!!!
Then I returned middle sons call. He wanted to tell me that He was on his way to pick his 'Vette up from the repair shop, finally, and how Awful the finance company and warranty company have been...and that they are all fighting again...
Then he said that another phone call was coming in and that was the end of the call.
Once again-all about HIS POSSESSIONS-just like his Father.
I don't KNOW why I was feeling so Awful. But, My oldest Son and my Daughter are like ME and they have Both been hurt Physically and Emotionally by these other two-so wanting them to "be together" was pretty damned selfish of me :-(
It was a good dose of reality. Oldest Son and I are in a good place. Daughter will be heading this way in the next year. I have more to be Thankful for than at any time in my Life.
I was just using "victim eyes" and not thinking straight.