OK I'm confused. My wife is leaving me to find happiness in her life. Togeather for 20 years. We've been in theripy for 8 months give or take. At first we were seeking help to deal with diffrent parnenting skills then Pandora's box opened and she discouved that she wasn't happy got depressed, then it was time to go. Everyone thought it was crazy. It took me a long time to accept that she needed to go, but I keep getting these mixed signals from her. For example, she thinks we're going to be spending Xmas with her family, She sent me a photo of her and a girl friend where they were both dressed up and looking good, she asked me what kind of bathing suit she should get (she's lost 25lbs), she want's to spend time together at the cottage with our boys, then this weekend I'm grilling some ribs having a drink, kids have had a great day playing in the lake the sun's shinning and she say's is it OK if I get a hug?? I told her that I'm not ready yet and she burst into tear and has to go to the bathroom to get ahold of her self ( kid's still don't know of our break up). I hoped for so long that we could work this out. The harder I tried the further she pulled away until I realized I could win this this way, I had to let her go. Now, I can't be in the middle, ether we're married or we're not. I still love her and she says she still loves me. But I can't let her hurt me anymore. I have to move on. So why the mixed signals. What am I missing?
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