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Last night my stbx came to load the trailer for my moving to our camp. There was quite a bit. I had spent two days packing containers and boxes. Most of this trip is my art studio. Also some furniture that will make the house less crowded. My new bed arrived today and was put in the trailer also. After we finished loading the tailer we sat down and went over the settlement his lawyer made changes to. He was instructed not to show this to me. He did anyway. There are only a few things that need to be explained. I had invited him to dinner eairler in the week. When he first got there he gave me a long hug, I was suprised, and liked it. After dinner we went in the hottub. We were still talking and it seemed like nothing was wrong at all. After about 40 min. He put his arms around me and we just sat there talking. We cuddled for about 20 min. I massaged his calf. We got out. Changed and then he had a beer, I had a glass of wine and we watched the CMA awards on the couch cuddling more. He left, we hugged and he gave me a kiss. I have read many posts about stbx's getting together and one party gets the wrong idea and gets hurt, or they have relations and there is shame, anger, or guilt and pain after. I am looking for some advice about how to proceed. I don't want my marriage to end, but I don't want to get my hopes up and this was just a moment of compassion and nothing more. I know he is not a mean person. He has said we should wait until spring to sell the house, but he goes back and forth from now or spring. We both agree not to do anything until the seperation aggrement is signed. He has also stated that this is not a sure divorce but a seperation. What if the house is sold, we reconcile???
Thoughts and advice please
Thoughts and advice please

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Some people cannot make a decision. He could jerk you around like this forever, you could be moving in and out forever. Check it out and ask him what it means. Require direct and open communication. Decide what you want. You may end up be the "decider", the designated grown-up. I speak from experience.

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You seem to have a lot of history with him, and trust him to a point. You seem very reasonable too. I would say you are best one to answer your own question. I would suggest sleeping on it and trusting your own instincs on this. I wish you the best.

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Zoot, we do have a long relationship, I want to make sure it is not thrown away in haste. Cvgl, my goal is to open communication without fear of backlash. I know what will be well be, and keep my head on straight

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I can't seem to stop thinking about Wednesday, is this normal???????

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i think it's normal because most of us still miss our people in one way or another no matter what they've done. There was another post where they mentioned that you need to make the decision based on where you are now not the past. Not easy but it's true.
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