Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
This site has brought a lot of positives but lately not so much. There is way to much drama for me and the stuff I have been involved in I have brought on myself for the most part. There is a lot of pain here and many people who are looking of answers or some sort of cure. To often I think we forget that the people on here are just mere humans like we all are, and all are flawed. We all try to be supportive and give our advice but we are not living each other lives. Only we can decide what we are going to do and how we are going to do it. I am very flawed and I make mistakes all the time. Do I have a clue what I am doing when I talk to the opposite sex, for the most part no but I am trying to the best I can. Some one told me today that I am not a nice guy, and that may be true but I am trying to be the nicest guy I can be. If you poke me with a sharp stick I am going to get pissed and if you keep poking then you are going to piss off the 300 lb Gorilla that I keep tied up in the deep dark pit that is my gut. Thats a dark place no one want so see or go to thats where the Ass hole in me lives and he is not a nice guy. So folks cut each other some slack, don't be so quick to judge and secure the ton of bricks every one seems so eager to drop. One more thing if your depressed or sad talk about once or twice but don't beat us all over the head with it every time. One more last thing, the chat room is now a done deal for me since the administrator likes to read the chats even when he is not there. Apparently some had copies of there chats sent to them and thats just creep and not cool, you all have been warned.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
and i have to agree with some of what you've said. there are times when i have to skip the really sad stuff - only because of where i am in my own head. but other days i handle it better. just depends.
and i look at it from this perspective. i choose to be on this site. i choose the posts i want to respond to. if i post a thread - then i am asking for someone's opinion. i might not like it. it might piss me off -it might make me cry. but i asked for it. therefore...be careful what you ask for cuz you might just get it!
In a way it's a good thing that the administrator has a 500 pound gorilla, otherwise this would be one of those two word at a time yahoo type sites.
I dont think your an asshole either.
It is often hard to find someone to care about, and sometimes those who you love the most die. My good friend Aguyandadog lost her husband and I lost a man I loved, to death.
It really does get better ask her she is doing pretty good, I know that she is on her game. Not all days or things are perfect but sometimes you have to LIVE for the JOY. When one has to struggle it is the silence that will bring you insight to heal you.
Time and much hard work has seved me well, my career has been my child and watching it grow has got me over many a dark night.
My hope for you is that life will bring you many days full of Beauty and Laughter, that many of the layers of pain will drift away, and soon that 300 pound gorilla, will be 200 pounds.
With the thought of the Administrator of the Chat Room well I have seen him tell a TALL TAIL and this nasty copy and send private thoughts is probable why that human is in the divorce and breakup resting place, may he find his way back to HONOR, PRIDE, and a big ass 5000 pound gorrilla looking for a meal.
im sure we all have good days and bad days and going half mad days.
it does seem like some of us are manufacturing some virtual world drama, and i dont encourage that. this should be a nice social release for some, and a nice support network for others.
for the most part i think i have been pretty lucky here. ive enjoyed the vast majority of the interractions and i sure as hell think its healthy to laugh. and y'all have a special ability to make me laugh.
so, lets not throw the baby out with the bath water. at least not quite yet....
They've all cleared the chatrooms. Damn!
Thanks a lot!!!!