I'm sorry. I know how hard this time is to you. Each of us has turned to this place because we have had the same feelings. Reach out and others will reach out to you. Time, tears, and talk. That seems to be the only way through this.

i was going to say misery loves company, but thats not true. misery is easier to deal with when with friends. so, welcome to ds. no advice really, give it some time. and we are all here for you. we know the hurt your suffering right now. take it one day at a time.

I am sorry. I understand you must be really depressed. I am too, somedays more than others and it has been 5 months. My life has changed a lot and I feel many times like the rug just got pulled out from underneath me.

Your world has been turned upside down and unfortunately time is the only thing that heals. You will find lots of support here at DS, so take advantage of it. We're here for you, ask questions, respond to other posts, participate as much as you can.

This is a horrible, earth shattering, mind boggling experience. The pain is there and there are no quick fixes. You will go through stages of questioning why, wondering you did wrong, hoping to put it back together, grieving, anger and finally acceptance.

Surround yourself with people who understand and support you. Join a support group. Get therapy if you can find a good counselor. Reach out to people and don't isolate yourself.

I am so sorry for you, especially since you have children involved. Remain strong for them.

Remember to post to DS and write in your journal. We are all here to help in whatever way we can.

it always it the case of the people who love the most gets hurt the most. Those of us who are devotated and commitment driven suffer the most pain. It is those who fail us leaves us standing in shock. Do what you can to get through this difficult time. Stay focused on what you need to take care of.

Welcome!! We are all floundering around together in the mess. Just stay strong for yourself and your children and you will get through.

I'am so very sorry to hear that pray and just try your best to stay on top if you can do it for the kids and may God Bless You stay strong man!! Cindy

Welcome-It is just sad you have had to come here-It is a wonderful place of support-We are all hear for each other-Time is all that will get you through this.

This is a very hard time for you. Quick identify your support network, family, close friends. Google Divorccare and see if there is a support group around you. Stay with us we will help you through till what ever end there is. I'm so sorry you were surprised by this. It's not fair. Focus on yourself and put your kids first.

What is the reason that your wife would like to separate? How do you two communicate? What details are you willing to share so we all can give to you more wisely?

Welcome. Mine did the same in September. You have a lot of pain to go through, anger, bewilderment, resentment.
You say you are scred only because you have no taken an inventory of yurself and your situation. Do that soon. If you are both still amicable, seek out a collaboration practise attorney, rather than the nasty combative approach. Assert your desire for joint custody. Promise yourself that you won't use the children as a blunt instrument. Go and find another woman (that's a way down the road, I'll bet). Find a good friend to listen (one who won't judge or take sides, and you won't seek to make her look bad).
Set yourself some short term and long term goals. Split any shared moeny ASAP and create your own account.
Look for a place to live.
Decide that this is actually a great thing to happen: you are free to be the man that you want, the father that you want.
Stay on DS. Keep a journal of your feelings, either here on elsewhere. Watch your roller coaster ride of emotions, experience each one, let each come, otherwise each will try again and again.
Tell your immediate superior at work, and any other staff members who you work with that you may crack up - its ok to do that. I tell people that she is divorcing me. It's the truth
You are strong, you will get through this because of your daughters. Set a new life for yourself and focus on that tomorrow.
May your God go with you on this journey.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It's very painful, but you will get through this. It will take time to heal. I pray that your wife will come to her senses.

I am sorry for your pain but typically when one partner wants a seperation there are some warning signs,did you pick up on any of those?

I lived in total shock for about 4 months.

Right now you are in shock. Give yourself time to grieve. I know it isn't easy, but in time you will feel happy again.

I gave myself plenty of time to howl to the moon. It was a terrible time for me. I never thought I'd get over it, but I did and you will too.