
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Surround yourself with people who understand and support you. Join a support group. Get therapy if you can find a good counselor. Reach out to people and don't isolate yourself.
I am so sorry for you, especially since you have children involved. Remain strong for them.
Remember to post to DS and write in your journal. We are all here to help in whatever way we can.
You say you are scred only because you have no taken an inventory of yurself and your situation. Do that soon. If you are both still amicable, seek out a collaboration practise attorney, rather than the nasty combative approach. Assert your desire for joint custody. Promise yourself that you won't use the children as a blunt instrument. Go and find another woman (that's a way down the road, I'll bet). Find a good friend to listen (one who won't judge or take sides, and you won't seek to make her look bad).
Set yourself some short term and long term goals. Split any shared moeny ASAP and create your own account.
Look for a place to live.
Decide that this is actually a great thing to happen: you are free to be the man that you want, the father that you want.
Stay on DS. Keep a journal of your feelings, either here on elsewhere. Watch your roller coaster ride of emotions, experience each one, let each come, otherwise each will try again and again.
Tell your immediate superior at work, and any other staff members who you work with that you may crack up - its ok to do that. I tell people that she is divorcing me. It's the truth
You are strong, you will get through this because of your daughters. Set a new life for yourself and focus on that tomorrow.
May your God go with you on this journey.
Right now you are in shock. Give yourself time to grieve. I know it isn't easy, but in time you will feel happy again.
I gave myself plenty of time to howl to the moon. It was a terrible time for me. I never thought I'd get over it, but I did and you will too.