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Memories.

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Ya know. I get to thinkin about the past a lot. Like today. Today I got to thinking about 4 years ago when my husband was in Basic Training. He cried when he left and he later told me that it took all he had to not just turn around and say screw it (shipping off to basic). His first 2 phone calls, he cried because he said he missed me. Then, at Basic Training Graduation when the weekend activities were over, and when we had to say goodbye, we both held each other and cried. He didn't want to leave me to get on that bus to Tech School. This is just 4 years ago, and during that time we had been married for 8 years. What the heck went wrong? How can we go from agony of being apart to divorce and him telling me that he wanted to be single and see who else was out there for him? I just don't get it. He told me that the last 2 years, he had been just "putting on a show". DOes he realize how hurtful that was to me?

I know that you all have thought or you are thinking the same things. Do you ever sit there and wonder what happened within that short period of time?
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I've wondered that myself and even asked him. He told me he realized he wasn't in love after we had been married for just 10 months. How can someone be so emotional on the day we married to not loving me anymore and the "show" you talked about...he put it on for practically our entire marriage which has been 4 years. He never could give me a reason, doesn't know what happened...I finally stopped asking and usually I don't care anymore. You'll always wonder, just try not to dwell on it.
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Pretty much everyday. What happened? Is this really my life now? So hard to believe at times.
Hug to you!
deleted_user
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All the time... I wasn't married but I though my ex was the one... we used to be so in synch and so in love... now... don't even email me were his last words.
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I'm with you. My husband says that the army is the only thing that ever meant anything to him. I told him I guess the army takes your life one way or the other. He did the same thing to me, cried told me how much he missed me, how much he hated being away. Then he decided that wasn't the trueth. I don't know what he ever said that was true any more.
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i try very hard to forget it all for that reason. its just not real to me. we were just like that, could not stand to be away. now its all we can do to be civil on the phone. its tragic.
deleted_user
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Not even three months ago my husband was planning a romantic weekend getaway for us. Literally 15 days later he told me that he was leaving me. How do you go from planning a romantic weekend to separate in two weeks? WTF?
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Yep, my situation is pretty much the same as yours, Serenity. My ex had just put money down on a vacation weekend just weeks before he broke things off with me. I don't understand it...but I'm starting to realize that it doesn't even matter anymore. What matters is that it's over. I have to come to terms with that, no matter what the reason.
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yes i wonder, was with boyfriend 8 years. said he was in love with me, was committed to me, i moved away to be with my daughter because she has breast cancer, she is only 28 yrs. old and i'm a nurse and her mother. well, my boyfriend said don't worry honey you'll know where i am, working and going to aa meetings. i was here 2 months, he called, was confused because he met someone else. know the feelings well. moving on, i'm better off without someone so selfish and selfcentered. we'll be ok. and we will never have those answers, so that is why i don't think about it anymore.
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People can be cruel. Especially the ones we love the most. So sad.
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