
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I think that when you finally really realize that it's over, that there is no chance of "fixing things", that's when you can start to also accept the happy memories without so much pain.
It does still hurt, but more from a distance. The more time that goes by, the more I realize that I miss the IDEA of what I thought my stbx was, but not the reality of him. I miss the idea of being in a relationship. But I'm less lonely now, alone, than I was a lot of the time with him.
For now, though, while you're still in so much pain, try to focus on the BAD times if you can.
Sorry -- you asked for advice -- that wasn't advice.
We had some laughs, but usually when we were on vacation and not living in reality. STBX does not do well with reality.
If you ever want him back don't pursue him. Chasing someone to make them love you again NEVER works.
Respect his decision and let him go. Live your life to the fullest and believe me he will come back.
It's ok to smile at the happy memories. It's also important to look at the reality as well. Your life and the decisions you make should be based on the reality of the situation not memories.