Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Can anyone tell me what proper etiquette is when trying to meet someone? I don't want to spend my time in bars trolling for women, I don't want to use online services, and I don't want to date anyone I work with (my last two wives fall into this category). I am not a very outgoing person and if I see someone I think is attractive if I don't know them how do I start a conversation? Also, I am 38 but I would guess most people wouldn't guess me much over 30 if that, so shallow as it may seem I am mostly attracted to women 25 - early 30's so it is even somewhat difficult telling how old some are (I mean over 21). I mean how many questions can you ask when you see someone out (say a store) before you just seem creepy? I really would appreciate some women's opinion on this, telling me what will and won't work when that time comes.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
In terms of figuring out how old they are, I find it's best to just cut them in half and count the rings.
Good luck. If you need me - I'll be sitting at the bar by myself.
Be myself... Check
Don't ask questions... Check
Smile... Check
Be nice and friendly... Crap! Looks like I'm going to be single for a LOOOOONG time.
Remind me to kill him if he ever comes out!
1. large group settings, small intimate dinners cause too much pressure
2. wait to see the person at the event, before suggesting a coffee or dinner or drink
3. keep the dialogue light and friendly, no sad stories; current events, news, music, did you know?....
4. stay away from the industry; do not date people you work with or encounter as a client or consultant...way too risky
5. if you know someone single, and you heard this person is looking, and you meet them, don't wait for an intro, talk to them yourself; and give them card at the end for maybe a coffee or drink
6. stay away from bar hopping; that's just drunk people looking to get laid, and if that's what you want, my advice is go to a professional; you'll probably save a lot of money and won't make a jackass out of yourself after all the beers are in you.
4.
www.itsjustlunch.com
They hook you up with others for lunch or drinks after work. I have met lots of quality people.. no love matches.. but it definately gets you out of the house and dress up....try it...
I tried on line dating but could not find someone and was a bit creeped out....