You may not be able to open up yet, but eventually you will. Right now there is nothing wrong with going out with someone just to have a fun time and remind yourself you are worthy enjoyment! Just make sure the guy you go out with knows up front this is just a friend thing to have a good time! Good Luck!

worthy "OF" enjoyment... lol

Can you tell him that you are flattered, but need to keep it "light and friendly"?

It is scary to socialize on your own...no one to run to for cover. You will feel better when you have built up your circle of close friends.

My mouth runs a mile a minute, just like my typing...God only Knows how quickly I will either get myself into trouble, or scare the hell out of some poor person :-/ Thank God in person most people understand my humor...

I think Tami has it right. Just make it light an friendly. No need to try and get serious right now. Its too soon. Go out and have some fun. We all need some fun in our lives right now.

I think it's great that your getting out and meeting new people.
I have been out of circulation for over 25 years and I don't have a clue where to start.

Thats where I live....it is totally scarey.....I miss a lot of opportunities...I like the feeling of flattery but now its followed by panic. i feel trapped in my own prison.

I find this to be the most daunting of all - I live in a relatively small town - other than sporting events my kids are involved in and work - not sure where else to go to meet people

I find this to be the most daunting of all - I live in a relatively small town - other than sporting events my kids are involved in and work - not sure where else to go to meet people

This is weird. My stbx is still not out of the house yet - and I'm not knowing what we are going to do (divorce/separate?) other than he's moving out in 2-1/2 weeks. I don't want the divorce. And at 52, scared that I'll never meet anyone again. I was single for 20 years (after 1st divorce) and happy as a solo, but now together with H for 5 years, I can say that I want to be married, I reallly like that life. So here's what's weird - I can't imagine going through any of that dating stuff, and a relationship or any intimacy seem like an unbearable thought. On the other hand, I'm checking out all the on-line match stuff (all free I haven't paid any fees yet.), but I'm thinking of joining one or a couple. Why, I guess I want some male attention - literally just attention and companionship and because I want to be re-assured that there are still some decent men out there and that I can still be for interest to someone. Am I crazy? I know I'm no where even close to wanting a relationship, but I so don't want to be alone either. If I meet some men and I'm upfront about not wanting to be in relationship, just friendship, is it wrong? for me or for them? I would probably be just as happy meeting some other women befriend, but it's harder to do - in that you need to find the groups and what kind of groups, etc. Where the online match stuff is pretty easy. Nuts, mean or what?

Right after I met my gf I went to my counselr (I'm a big fan of counselers) and it was suggested that gf and I have boundaries, so we both know the rules. She knows I'm raw from stbx, and has told me certain things will or will not happen right away. I suggest you do something similar. By knowing each others boundaries, you both know what to expect from each other. Just a suggestion

Wow....I am very impressed! I just can't seem to find the courage yet to go out and meet new people by myself but I am trying to work up to it.