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deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,
I am new to this web page. Monday my stbx and I went to a mediator. I am a stay at home mom. He has a really good job. He found out that the court favors 50% of everything including his salary. He flipped out. Started telling me he had no motivation to work now. I was shocked by his reaction. He feels that I do not deserve 50% of his salary. This really scares me. I have not worked out of the home for 20 years. It was his idea to leave so he could find his I. I really am scared and hope he is responsible to his family including his children.
deleted_user
deleted_user
what state do you live in?
deleted_user
deleted_user
California
chowgirl
chowgirl
I don't know how it is in CA, but in WA they determine support on the "capability to earn". That was their response to the people who quit working to get out of paying support.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Check with your local rules. But I believe chow girl is right
deleted_user
deleted_user
I love to play devils advocate, not siding with your ex on any level. I too stayed home..from the time I got pregnant ..until my son graduated from College! Shortly before my divorce from former husband (not recent ex) I went back to work part time. I am now fully self supporting. While I was awarded some maintenance for a few years, the courts no longer expect the wage earning spouse to support the other totally for life. They will look at your ability to earn, or "learn and earn" as some call it.

Yes men tend to "flip out" when they first hear this.
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