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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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as you may know my stbx and i went to court on monday . it was decided by family relations that the next step is to be mediation . the date will be within the next 30 days. how long did it take for any of you to get notice of a date for mdiation? I almost wish it was right away, like tomorrow , just so i we can move right along with this mess. and secondly, how was mediation? the attorney will not be in there with me. she says they 'll be great and not to worry i'll be fine even tho there are control issues with stbx. what was your experience with it ? he has already tried to badmouth me in front of family relations guy . stbx shot himself in the foot by attempting to do it there cause the fr guy told him right out that he was not looking for concerns about me as a person. ugghhhhh i wish it were over. any feedback.

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hello again, just wondered if anyone was out there to answer about mediation question. im kind of nervous about it cause attorney wont be with me. of cours i havent even gotten the date of the mediation yet so i should just chill til then. i can not break down . ive gotta take care of myself and the boys.

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What state are you living in?

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im in connecticut

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I live in Michigan. When I went to mediation I was under impession it was to divide assets. My ex wanted 100% and would not budge. (She is 24/7 alcoholic and not rational in the least). From there it is automatic trial and judge decides how to divide. We wasted a lot of time and money on mediation for nothing.

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that is what i heard-if you both don't agree on everything then you still end up in court-mediation is just a waste of time if both of you don't agree on the terms of your divorce-then the judge has to decide for you-don't worry and stick to uor guns-if you don't like anything go to court

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I haven't been yet, but like you I am nervous about going -I hate confrontation is the biggest problem, I do well with going through my lawyer or rather a lot better than I expected but when it comes face to face that will be hard - he will probably end up with everything. I have no idea when we will go -we are still settling on "temporarily stuff" but I just want it all over with. Let us know how everything goes and I wish the best to you!
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