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deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi, im new to this site, and dont really know what im doing, and if this is in the wrong spot, please forgive me....a cpl days ago my husband and I got into an argument that blew up into something bigger than it should have. Well, after that argument, he told me he wanted a seperation, he called his mom, packed a bunch of his stuff and left. I love my husband so very much and want him back home. I sent him a message on his phone asking if he wants to try marriage counceling, but the only response was "I need to think about things" What can I do to get him to see I dont want him to give up on us???
solongbye
solongbye
Is there anyother indication of something else wrong here? If there isn't maybe just a cooling off period is needed.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't understand after a blowup why he would leave suddenly. Is there something else that is going on? Or something you suspect?

Unfortunately you can't get him to "see" anything. If he already has it in his mind. All you can do it tell him how you feel about things and if he chooses to go to counseling then great and if he doesn't you should go to work on yourself to be a better person no matter what. Take care!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree w MeIsab. And give him the space he needs. DO NOT beg or plead or do the thinking for him by telling him to come home and work this out. This will push him further away. he needs to come to that conclusion by himself. Tell him that you understand he needs some time but that you will be there for him if and when he wants to talk. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Best of luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Alex31. You may want to find a book called The Divorce Remedy. I got my copy off of Amazon.com. Same kind of advice was given there. My begging and pleading to get him to do what I wanted to do has never worked....(16 yrs worth of it!) Good luck and Best Wishes to you!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes people just need some space. You do need to look deeper into things though. Are there other issues going on in your marriage? Has he been distant lately? Don't push him just give him a little time and see where things take you. Good luck honey and hang in there.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
At this point there really is nothing you can do to affect positive outcomes, but you can easily add to or create negative outcome.

Basically it's out of your control, he has to decide whether he's interested in continuing or not. Then you can negotiate the rest.

Good luck :)
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