without risks, there'd be no gains... i got blindsided by my stbx...am i ready for another relationship yet...no...do i hope to be married again one day... absolutely.

I had 23 years. Hate that it's over, but wouldn't trade it for the world. find someone, love her, cherish her, and take a chance.

No fault divorce has taken thousands of years of matrimony and ruined it in 20 or so years.

You have reason to be scared.

beleive me i'm not laughing at you, but i can see why you would be scared to death to get married after coming here and reading all these stories. drama after drama. God Bless your grandparents. and if you do get married i hope it's for life.

I spent 10 years being scared after my divorce...now I am 10 years older ...being scared got me nowhere, but lonely...I had a realationship that I put my whole heart into and I got devastatingly hurt....but I learned something the risk I took was better than all those years I spent being on the fun keeping people at arms length if they said marriage I was gone.....I withheld my heart never completely gave it away ...didnt trust myself or anyone....the last relationship was an amazing experience and even though it hurt bad...I learned that not to try is worse....Im still defeated especially today but be afraid more of wasting time on fear

Shouldnt be afraid of marriage, the commitment of marriage, the trust, the Love, only maybe afraid of whom you are marrying. Shes out there bro, trust me..... When you least expect it... The universe will make sense..

I keep waiting for the universe to make sense ....I hold on to that....but I cant wait too much longer ....Im getting tired

Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. The main causes of divorce in 2004, according to a recent study, were extra-marital affairs (27%), family strains (18%), emotional/physical abuse (17%), mid-life crisis (13%), addictions, e.g. alcoholism and gambling (6%), and workaholism (6%).
According to this survey, men engaged in extra-marital affairs in 75% of cases; women in 25%. In cases of family strain, women's families were the primary source of strain in 78%, compared to 22% of men's families.
Emotional and physical abuse were more evenly split, with women affected in 60% and men in 40% of cases. In 70% of workaholism-related divorces it was men who were the cause, and 30% women. The 2004 survey found that 93% of divorce cases were petitioned by women, very few of which were contested.
53% of divorces were of marriages that had lasted 10 to 15 years, with 40% ending after 5 to 10 years. The first 5 years are relatively divorce-free, and if a marriage survives more than 20 years it is unlikely to end in divorce.

God willing, I will marry again some day.
But I will be shall we say-
cautious.

PS to reply #8....

..........The 2004 survey found that 93% of divorce cases were petitioned by women, very few of which were contested...........

I agree with Adrienne1, if I had not taken the risk to marry my wife,I would not have such a beautiful son. I don't any of us do think that we are ever going to get divorce when we marry. It is unfortunate that there is such a high rate of divorce. I will be married again, just have to find the right person.

Look for someone that did not come from a family with a high divorce rate. That will help.

I thought that was hog wash...oh, was I dumb.

Good Luck with your fears. They will keep you from Living.

Next time we will be more cautious? What, we decided to marry the first time just for laughs?