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I am trying to keep an emotional distance from my X. His behavior (lying, manipulating, verbal abuse, and addiction) hurts me and I need to move on after the divorce. I don't want to hang out with him, go to the movies, go out to eat, or have him over to the house to "visit the kids" (he hangs on me and NOT the kids). It hurts for me to do this, but I have to for my safety and sanity!
Instead of visiting with the kids at his apartment this afternoon (like he planned), he chose to play Texas Hold 'Em with a friend. He now wants to drop by to "hang with the kids" and bring them ice cream. Mind you, he wouldn't be paying much attention to the kids, but hitting on me! I told him that if he wanted to visit with the kids that he could bring them to his apartment or pick them up and take them out for ice cream. He starts crying and tells me that I'm selfish and cruel. WTF?????
Am I in the wrong here or is he just trying to be manipulative and controlling as usual?!
Instead of visiting with the kids at his apartment this afternoon (like he planned), he chose to play Texas Hold 'Em with a friend. He now wants to drop by to "hang with the kids" and bring them ice cream. Mind you, he wouldn't be paying much attention to the kids, but hitting on me! I told him that if he wanted to visit with the kids that he could bring them to his apartment or pick them up and take them out for ice cream. He starts crying and tells me that I'm selfish and cruel. WTF?????
Am I in the wrong here or is he just trying to be manipulative and controlling as usual?!
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Tell him if he wants to spend time with the kids that is great, but if he wants to spend time with you, he needs to start seeing a counselor so he can work on his issues.
If he is not manipulating, and he seriously wants to get back together, he will take you up on your offer. At the very least he needs to see a counselor to see how hurtful this is.
Friday he knowingly overdrew his account and rented a Dodge Charger (what a narcissist!). He's called back twice now a left a voice mail (I wouldn't answer the phone!) saying that he just wants to spend time with the kids and by the way I have to pick him up tomorrow afternoon when he returns the rental car and then I have to help him move out of his apartment by Wednesday to stay at his dad's. Ah......no I don't!
I ALREADY told him that I have to bring my daughter to a therapy appointment out of town tomorrow. Besides....HE is not my responsibility. We're not married anymore! What about all of those people that were more important than his family that he spent so much time with???? Why can't THEY help him?!
I think that it's just best that I let the voicemail take his calls and only return those calls relating to the children (and RATIONAL requests). GRRRR!