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Okay need male insight.. or female insight into his F**%&$&( reasons...

So my story is 11 months ago he had me removed from our home, changed the locks and filed for temp custody while I lived ina women's shelter after he almost punched me out... after spending 70K on responding to his legal bullsh_t. He hired a real expensive and nasty family law lawyer who mission is to drain me of cash and drain me emotionally so I can't fight anymore.. you picked the wrong lady dude.. no one F_cks with me and no one deny's me access to my own child...

so now we can petition the courts to grant us a divorce since we cna't resolve jack sh_t and file for a trial which will take another 12 to 14 months.. so my lawyer said we can get their permission to grant the divorce now and set aside the issues.. so guess what.. assh_ole doesn't want to divorce me... Wtf? is going on here?

He has huge control issues? any advice
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Mine ended in a trial. It took 27 months and lots of money. Lawyers made out. Wife was pretty greedy.
Its really foolish to marry nowadays with these unfair laws, and greedy people.
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I'm with zoot. I wouldn't marry again without an ironclad prenup! My lawyer said I got off easy. I had no idea how right he was.
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WTF so does that mean you get to see your son and move back in to your house. Or is he just trying to keep things as they are, this makes no sense to me and is all different kinds of wrong. Cherub what is you Liar saying about this.
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What this means is that my son has his own lawyer and my soon to be ex will now be accountable for denying me telephone and email access. Taking my son out of his gifted school, bullying me and got paying spousal support. The office of the children's lawyer should hopefully order a child custody assessment ( to see which home is the best for him to live in and ) hopfully get my son some much needed counselling so he can voice his concerns and fears... this may result in me eventually getting custody.. at a minimum my son now has a voice.... yahoo

No I don't get to move back into the house, the other judge stole it from me and withheld 50,000 of my house equity based on a temp custody order that my stbx lied to get....
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Okay, so he doesn't want to divorce you? WHAT does the man want??? I think Control issues is the understatement of the year.

I have no advice at the moment...I'm speechless.
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I didn't thing so but I can't imagine how he could put the divorce on hold after all that has happened. May this is a sign that things are about to change for the better. I hope you are feeling much better and you get to see your son very soon.
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my stbx lawyer says that he doesnt want to agree to the divorce as it may prejudice his case...wtf.. sounds like control issues to me... my laywer says he will push hard for the judge to grant me a final divorce.... yahoo baby...get to dump his last name.. cant think of one god damn reason why stbx wont grant me permission other than to frustrate me... well F_ck off buddy.. I have moved on with my life
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The main issues I see in your statement are, your stbx doesn't want a divorce but wants to control you, and he is trying to control by keeping you away from your son as well. I would say don't look back. If you reconcile with him now, he will see you as more desparate and it will only get worse, since he will become even bolder. Secondly, some things are worth fighting for, even if it costs us everything! The life of a child is certainly such a thing! Children have no control over adult failures. Their lives are destroyed because of the foolishness of adult mistakes. Your son needs parents who will protect him from everyone or everything that will negatively effect his future, even if that is the other parent. I suggest that you step away and assess what you will devoe your time, attention, energy, etc to, and stick to that plan.
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Dear Sophia

no chance in hell I am ever reconciling with him.. he has me removed from my house by the police by lying to them.... and I lived in a womens shelter.. I also have a death threat on me.. never never never.... but yes my son is worth fighting for.... I will never give up the fight .. never
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mycherub, you have struggled so much through this situation! I am so sorry things are being delayed again. It sounds like there is hope, but, wow, everything takes so long. Stay strong!
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