"Friends(girls) don't let Friends(guys) drink and think." LOL

Yes..it's possible.But not probable.In my experience.:)If my "friend" shares all the same qualities i find attractive in a potential "date" than why would i look at her any differently.It's what you do with the urge that separates the good ones/from the bad.It's called respect!
_Savery1

I have female friends who are dear to me. So, yes, I know it's possible as long as you don't have a hidden agenda.

I don't know the answer. But I do know that my wife was talking to a guy "El B." for short for our purposes. She had in the past had "relations" with him. For her it was just a friends thing that she started talking to him. On the phone one day, she told me, they started talking about life and he asked how many kids she had. She said 4 and he said "That's too many for me." hung up and hasn't called her since then. He had been calling her before but now hasn't talked to her in a couple weeks.

Well, you are right! It's definitely NOT something you tell your wife - or any woman for that matter.

First of all, there are tons of men who are not married and are still having sex, so that's just plain silly to say that.

I think men and women can have a platonic relationship at work, but don't think it works well in the personal life....too complicated - especially if there are husbands or wives or SOs to consider.

I think Harry was right. Even starting off with the best intentions, most men will want to "get some" eventually.

I feel male and females can be friends. But I feel that it can put a hamper on a relationship you are in. Jealousy can plague the mind. Both people need to be open and comfortable. Friends know when to step back if needed.

Sounds like a load of crap to me... Maybe that is what he thinks, but not all men....

"...if it were not for sex men would not be married..." Huh??? Sounds just the opposite of my x, he apparently had plenty of sex outside the marriage, but wanted marriage for all the other perks (free cook, free housework, free child care, free accountant etc)...

I have had male friends all my life. I have had fewer female friends. Some of them I have been friends with more many many years.

My best friend is a man, would do anything for me and is there for me in good times and bad. He is not afraid to tell me how things are when I need a kick in the ass and he always supportive when I need that too. There is no hidden agenda from either one of us. So yes, men and women can be buds.

i may be a bit jaded on this subject as the ex told me "she's just a friend"...

but...keeping in mind my somewhat warped current point of view...

yes, i do believe men & women can be friens without there being anything sexual in it at all.

i cherish my male friends. they give me perspective. plus...love that they change the oil in my car, help move the furniture, keep jerks off me when we go out...

Back in college I had a good friend that was a cute little redhead. We had met at the gym and worked out together all the time. We went away for a weekend as friends to a race in another town. Stayed in the same hotel room and slept in the same bed. (Clothed). We were buddies and nothing ever happened. A few years later she asked me why I didn't do anything and I said because we had such a good friendship. She was good with that and so was I.
I was invited to her wedding.

Well, I think I finally agree with LarryLDN and RobNi (??) re. the Harry Met Sally take on this. I have one reaaally good male friend, a recent "acquisition" thru a local divorce support group -- we met online but have not met face to face yet, and another more casual male friend who I have met in a dating context but we both decided we'd be better off as friends. They are both now in committed relationships with other women.

I had invited the more casual one to coffee to chat AS FRIENDS, and he had been avoiding the invitation. I asked again yesterday while we were talking on the phone, and the Great Wall went up faster than I could say "Make that a cappucino." He said he didn't think it was right since he was seeing someone. I ran it by the other male friend to get his perspective, we haven't met yet, but I was hoping to have coffee with him later this week or next, and he essentially said the same thing -- he can't spend face time with me b/c he's involved with someone else. Now, if we are all mature adults, and we know we are just friends, what's the big deal? It's the WHMS syndrome (When Harry Met Sally Syndrome).

Guys, you've convinced me. I'm going off into my hole now to pull the dirt over my head. All I want and need right now are some MALE FRIENDS to help me avoid the "I Hate Men" or "All Men Are Jerks" pitfalls that I could so easily fall into -- my stbx NEVER shared with me his uniquely testosterone-filled perspective -- EXCEPT as it related to sex. I miss the male friends I once had.

This boundary these guys have set, I THEORETICALLY get it, but really DON'T. And it hurt when they both laid it down, because I am an off-the-charts extrovert, and I need in-person contact with people. I have plenty of girlfriends, good ones, but I need that other half of the equation. :-(

Becky

I've had guy friends my whole life...starting with my brothers. I think that after they moved out and we didn't see each other as much anymore I missed that contact & needed to make more male friends. So, I think alot of it has to do with how you grew up.

to some extent I think yes. Although I get a little jelous of my hubbie friend of 15yrs. only because my husbands ex-wife told me that they used to have an affair. The friend is married but they maintain this friendship on the DL....any thoughts??

I think that it is okay to have friends that are the opposite sex. I think things could be complicated. One has to be careful not to "emotionally" cheat with the opposite sex friend. This is where they serve all of the functions of a husband rather than the sexual part. It is easy for these relationships to end up being an affair. Your husband should still be your best friend and if he is uncomfortable with that then I believe that the wife should put some distance between her male friend and herself. My husband believes that men and women can't be friends without sex being an issue. He says that eventually, the man will (on occasion) view the woman in sexual terms. I can't speak for men, but I don't think that I have ever viewed my male friends in sexual terms.