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Making it through the holidays with a broken heart

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Hello All,
I was just wondering if anyone had some advice for making it through the holidays as a recently divorced/separated/single person. Thanksgiving was really, really rough; I am dreading XMas and New Year's! Anything helps-THANK YOU!!!
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Last year was horrible for me...I spent far too much time feeling rotten and sorry for myself. As bad as I had it..my sister had it worse..her husband of 40 years passed away.

Take some time and volunteer yourself! i've been pushing this lately. So many people need US this time of year! It will help you get through the holidays and help people who need it..here's some suggestions:
Senior Citizen Centers
Veterans or Military groups/hospitals
Childrens Hospitals
Battered womens shelters
Homeless Shelters
Boys and Girls Clubs
Animal Shelters
You'll be helping people that NEED you..and helping yourself too!
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Definately get out of the house. I agree with trying to help someone. You can usually locate a family that may need help also. Look up an old friend. Just stay BUSY.
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I would also suggest making new friends with your fellow volunteers who are also single and planning a get together on Christmas Eve or even Christmas Day if you don't have family to spend it with. A lot of single and otherwise lonely people get together and play games, make dinner and even exchange gifts during the holiday. Get out there and you will have more fun than you had with him!
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This is my first holidays as a single person.
One thing I am noticing is that the holidays are what I am making them. I will start out depressed and having a bit of a pity party and then realized I was so miserable in my marriage why am I allowing that misery to be a part of my life as a single woman. I also believe 100% in what courier said. the best way to get out of your own misery is to help another even if you dont feel like it. Fake it till you make it. just something I ama trying to do for myself as well. I am also working on making it easy on my kids. They are older but I want them to feel real comfortable seeing their dad through the holidays. I am even going to call my stepsons and envite them to come over during the holidays. I almost raised them.
That way it will be there choice.
anyway just some things I am trying to do.
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I'm about to find out myself - sort of. My STBX and the kids are going to move out the day after Christmas. What a holiday this will be.
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