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I have put some thought into want I want in my new mate.
1. Have children of their own and can love mine
2. Know that my children do not need a daddy. They have one.
3. Loves to laugh
4. Not focused on material things
5. Not a neat freak
6. Loves to talk or at least like to hear me run my mouth
7. Financially responsible.
8. Hard worker but not a work acoholic
9. Like simple things like picnics, watching movies at home, cooking meals together
10. Thinks of me as much as I think of them.
Ok, here is our chance to make our list. When you meet someone and they don't have these qualities then I am probally wasting my time and theirs. WE CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE@! Heck, I can barely change myself. LOL
1. Have children of their own and can love mine
2. Know that my children do not need a daddy. They have one.
3. Loves to laugh
4. Not focused on material things
5. Not a neat freak
6. Loves to talk or at least like to hear me run my mouth
7. Financially responsible.
8. Hard worker but not a work acoholic
9. Like simple things like picnics, watching movies at home, cooking meals together
10. Thinks of me as much as I think of them.
Ok, here is our chance to make our list. When you meet someone and they don't have these qualities then I am probally wasting my time and theirs. WE CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE@! Heck, I can barely change myself. LOL
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
but I can't see that far ahead right now.
P.S. I don't care what direction the TP roll is, PLEASE DON'T MAKE IT AN ISSUE.
It made me realize that my ex and I have very little in common other than our children and bills. He does not meet what I am looking for or want.
So the door is open for the right man to walk through. Whether that is next year or five years. I am tired of settling for less.
I can do bad all by myself!
But hey no one perfect ** BIG GRIN **, and of course the fact that we are talking ficticiously anyways.
2.Caring
3.Compassionate
4.Passionate
5.Romantic (brings me flowers he stopped the car to pick just for me.It cost no money only time and thought).
6.Listens and talks to me.
7.Loves to cuddle
8.Loves public displays of affection.
9.Seldom drinks
10.Smokes cigarettes or has a magic potion that can help me quit.(not because he wants me to because I want to).
11.Loves spur of the moment adventures
12.Hates the beach at day.Loves it at night.
13.Watches the stars and clouds.
14.Loves a full moon (either one)
15.Loves great food.
16.Helps with housework but does most of the yardwork.
17.Loves to kiss me hold me caress me rub my neck and back (touching me is imperative)
18.Makes love to me daily(making love isn't always sexual)
19.Makes the coffee some mornings and wakes me up with a kiss and a fresh hot cup of coffee.
20.Monogomous relationship
21.Shares his fantasies with me.
22.Tells me how much he loves me.
23.Doesn't get insecure just because I like looking at him.
24.No yelling arguing fighting.Can discuss differences of opinions without those.
25.Happy most of the time
26.Great sense of humor (uses humor to diflect pain or anguish).Makes me laugh every day.
27.Teaches me new things
28.Shows me new places
29.Does things with me because I enjoy them
30.Loves to see me smile.
31.Will try new things
32.Loves dogs
33.Loves me and accepts me for who I am.
34.Terrible dancer (that will dance with me anyway).I'm a terrible dancer.
35.Sings in the car
36.Makes up words to songs just for fun.(I had a dog Midnight and one of her theme songs was "Oh I'm a squirrel watcher")
37.Likes to go for walks barefoot.
38.Patient
39.Has a nice smile himself.
40.Can let me go out without him and he doesn't freak out but prefers to stay home with me than go out.I am that way.I don't mind him having personal time but I prefer time with him.NO JEALOUSY ON EITHER PART!
41.Loves museums and the arts.
42.Takes me out on a date every 2-3 weeks even though we've been together forever.
43.Will teach me to play pool.
44.Loves children but not sure I want them.Don't think I'll be young enough to have them when I find someone anyway.
45.Knows I'm not the kind of girl that it takes more than 5 minutes to get ready (actually I'm usually ready in a split second) but understands that it's a whole different story when I'm on my period.I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR AND I"M GONNA CRY AND POUT ABOUT IT!!!!He has to be able to deal with my moody ass then.
46.Wild and crazy like me.
47.Takes me to a hotel 15-60 minutes from home just for one night of fun.
48.Loves my family (they're crazier than me)
49.Loves my body (it's not perfect but I love it the way it is.Seriously I do).
50.Burps and farts like me.
51.Believes that Santa Claus really does exist.I do!
52.Believes in God and can see his everyday small miracles.I do!!!!
2. Unlike Restored, he could be a father-figure to my daughter, because hers is never around...
3. Has a career, financially responsible, but not anal about $$$...
4. Would be at home on a cruise ship, or at a hockey game...
5. Can be laid back when it is called for, but also can clean up nicely...
6. Doesn't mind if I turn the tiolet paper around to the proper way (wink, wink)...
7. Honest, appreciates me, and has a healthy appitite for... you know!!!...
Christmas is coming... this is my wish list!!!
I figure if he's failing in more than 3 catagories....Well 3 strikes HE'S OUT!
A Heart that Loves.
A Mind that Dreams.
A Will to Share.
A Soft Voice when angry, a Loud Voice when Laughing.
Must love dogs and other sweet furry creatures.
Must not be embarrassed to say Thankyou to people that they do not know.
Must love to just Talk.
the one thing that I ABSOLUTELY love (and my stbx hated to do it) is have lotion rubbed on my back.
I'm getting that the next time and I won't compromise.