Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My boyfriend and I just broke up about two weeks ago. We try to call eachother to keep in touch. After all, we had some really great moments together and even made plans to get married in our future. However, our phone calls are really tearing me apart. Not because I want the relationship back but because he's acting so much differently. I'm not sure if he's trying to make some sort of statement but he's been chewing and drinking a lot lately. What's more is that he's been saying rude things to me as well. He tells me that I don't have any friends and that I'll never be able to survive in a relationship. While we sometimes had arguments of this sort when we were together, he's taking it to a whole new level. Once he has me almost in tears, he seems to like attacking me for my beliefs and way of life. I want to salvage our friendship. Though I sometimes feel like cutting ties would be best, I can't seem to break myself away.
deleted_user
Oh sweetie...thank your lucky stars that you got out of this. With all due respect,andI dont mean to sound harsh, but be very very grateful that you did not marry this man like so many of us DSers have. why would you befriend someone who treats you so badly? Someone who makes you cry, hurts your feelings intentionally,and attacks your belief systems. Friends respect and care for one another. I would suggest (as hard as it will be) to cut off all contact with this person. you deserve better and dont need someone like that in your life. By continuing the "frienship" you are sending the message that it is ok to let him treat you this way and therefore giving him control. We all have weak moments. Dont give yourself the remote chance of falling back into his trap or control by keeping in touch. I know its difficult, hang in there and find friends that are WORTHY of you!
deleted_user
It doesn't sound like a very healthy friendship. Friends don't say things like that to you! It will be hard, but it really sounds like you need to move one and not give him the time of day.
deleted_user
You really sound like you need to find a way to break away. What on earth are you getting out of keeping in touch with a man who does nothing but belittle you and tear up your self esteem and confidence?!?
deleted_user
It's the booze. Tell him not to call you when he's been drinking. If that doesn't work, tell him you'll be glad to resume your friendship when he quits drinking. Or, or otherwise, cut him off completely.
deleted_user
Does not sound very healthy for you two to talk. Compleatly cutting ties may be a little rash depending on cercumstances but takeing a break from talking to eachother wouldnt be a bad idea. especaly if you recently broke up. fresh wounds can affect the way we talk to people.
deleted_user
his behavior is inappropriate. you have to set boundries. tell him, when he starts putting you down, the conversation is over. and if you have to hang up the phone. he is chipping away at your self-esteem, eventually if you keep allowing this, you will feel like he's right. your strong you can do this. would you treat a friend like this? friends don't treat each other that way.
deleted_user
i'm going to be blunt---- doesn't sound like much of a friendship to me if he treats you this way. *hug* you deserve better and don't ever feel that you don't....time to move on.
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