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maiden name vs married name

keepthehope
keepthehope
For the women who are getting divorced what is your deciding factor in your last name.
Does having the kids last name from the father play a role in it?
Curious to here your thoughts on it.
chowgirl
chowgirl
I can't wait to take back my maiden name. I've never liked my married name, but I was being old-fashioned when I got married and changed it. I don't have kids, though, so it's easier for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I want her TO HAVE TO take her maiden name back. She doesn't deserve to have it. Can it be decreed by law that she MUST revert to her maiden name?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I hate seeing my ex's emails to me with my last name on the email,I wish she would change it back to her maiden name
deleted_user
deleted_user
I will probably keep my married name. I don't want to have a different last name than my daughter.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, my ex got the ok in the divorce to change her name back but I think since she's close to someday getting remarried to the guy she's living with now, who knows. But she'd decided initially to keep the same name as her children. We'll see. I don't care either way.
patti22
patti22
Yes will keep the married name for my kids.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Interesting question whether you can take your name back from your ex. It should be allowed.

I have a name, so I did not change it to my husband's. If I had children, they would have his name and I would have added his name to mine in my personal life for their sake.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'd prefer not to keep my married last name, but I have children. I'm on the fence as to what I'll finally do -- but I don't think my STBX can demand I not keep his name. Interesting question, but I don't think any judge would order that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This has been something I have thought of alot lately - I have 2 kids, the baby will graduate this May, so after that do I really need his last name? I don't know I can't decide - guess I will need to someday - wish it were soon! I know in Texas you get the option when the divorce is final.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm keeping mine... hated by maiden name, too easy to make fun of...

Also, I have d, so probaly would anyway...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been married twice. I kept my children's last name for 14 years before I remarried. Now that this relationship is over, I took back the name my children have. I had that name longer than my maiden name and since I have boys, we will always have the same name now. That's what was important to me. That is who I am-their Mother. Not someone's ex wife.
deleted_user
deleted_user
After being divorced about a year, I took back my maiden name even though we have a daughter together. It was because even though we were divorced, he talked to me and treated me as though we were still married. Originally I wanted to keep his name for my daughter's sake but realized it was better for both of us, if I identified myself as totally separate from him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have 3 to choose from. Keep second husband's name, change back to first husband's name so it's the same as my kids, or maiden name.

I don't know... it's just a name. I may just leave it like it is... only because it's easier than going thru changing it again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have requested my Maiden Name back. I've answered this question in here before...but I say it again. I do not wish to honor my stbx by wearing his name. We do not have children together. I no longer "belong" to him. It is my declaration of independence.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am undecided. I have 3 boys so that is playing a factor.
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