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Made to feel like a dog!

RiS
RiS
Yesterday I had a bad day. Plans with a friend didn't happen so I was in this house all day. My ex came over to do a few things for his mom and put a wreath outside this house - a fake one he had. I'm so mad at myself for not buying a real one and doing this myself. Normally, my kids are okay but was picked on alot yesterday. Instead of saying 'don't talk to me that way - I'm your mother' - I left and went in the other room and cried. When my ex left I was an idiot and said to him 'don't leave'. He then said thank you for saying this to him (I should have told him where to go) and then patted me on the head! How dare he make me feel worse than I did already. Why did I put myself in this position? Is this holiday getting to me?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am really sorry you are feeling this way. The holidays are getting to allot of us. I stayed locked up for the most part yest. myself! So I can relate! It will get better!
Hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I hope you find the strength to heal, I know how you feel with the feeling torn between love for the ex (or stbx for me) and the I don't want to put up with the BS any more so I need to move on.

I hope you have a good holiday despite the circumtances.
TSand
TSand
We tend to be so hard on ourselves. We are human. Our feelings don't follow our commands. Can we agree to allow ourselves seven mistakes in response a week and they can be carried over? Shoot, let's make it fourteen, two a day per week. This is a hard, hard thing we are going through.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree that we should allow ourselves some room to make mistakes.. some room to grow. You have so much you're facing right now and you can't possibly be perfect and super strong every second of the day. You're trying to pick yourself back up and it's hard. I hope it gets better after the holidays.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow I know how you feel. Sometimes it seems like nothing goes right and you keep going downward. The holidays are hard for a lot of people. I used to have a hard time dealing with it...but honestly I think it was more the weather. Cloudy and dreary...but being with the family and getting out helped me a lot. I hope you feel better. Hang in there though.... and SMILE!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Holidays are tough - why don't you go get a real wreath today and dispose of the plastic one -or better yet go put the plastic on your ex's door LOL LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh yes, I have had the old pat on the head thing, it happens. Don't get upset over it, soon you will be able to say what is on your mind, and you will be one step ahead of him. I can feel that humiliation of the pat on the head so vividly, it was like I was a child, but it will get better, honest.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, I believe it is something in the air during the Christmas season. I am feeling emotional not having my husband around the kids and all the Xmas festivities. Stay strong, hopefully it will pass and look forward to a new year!
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