Nope - you won't find anyone to love you AS YOU until you accept and love who you are. Time to focus on yourself.

If I set my standards too high, how will I ever find a partner?
It may take awhile, but they will be a better partner, and it will be worth it.

That is what I telling myself. Don't settle.

Ok so you found one person who had a relationship with you. Just because that did not work out does not mean there is no one out there for you. That said who is going to want to be with some one who is so angry with themself. You need to lighten up on you and give you a break.

need to pick yourself up , and take care of you, look how you can make you better, and love you , before anyone can love you as you do... * hope that came out right*

The thing is, it's not about finding someone who will love and accept you.

The only person whom you have to worry about loving and accepting is yourself.

How to do that, I think everyone will probably have a different answer. Personally, I had to look within, answer some pretty hard questions about who and what I am.

We often don't see ourselves in the same light as our friends, our families. Ask for their input. We all have qualities that are good, we all have faults that simply make us human. We are our own worst critics and we are often harder on ourselves than what we would be with a friend, a family member.

I know after 20 months of separation, I love myself a lot more than I did at the start.

It's a tough ride but you will get there.

You are not alone. I think that it is hard to focus on yourself, it is much easier to concentrate on someone else. I am finding that too, I just am not sure what direction to go, but I do know it is forward. Time does help. Big hugs.

You sound depressed. I'm not trying to diagnose you but I would suggest you see a therapist and talk to them.
Good Luck, God Bless.

Young lady,

Life is full of triumphs and failures of some kind or another. Stop and think a minute, how many times did you fall when trying to learn to walk? Did you stop trying to walk or are you able to walk and run today?

Realize that you are special and unique, because there is no-one else just like you. Focus on your positives and as the old saying goes "fess up the mess up" and go on with your life. For years, I was told I would never amount to anything, never have anyone love me, etc. I have been married now for almost 35 years. Read my profile and "My Story" in my journal..Hopefully you can get some insight and encouragement from where I have been and what issues I have overcome. I wish you much happiness in the future and you can make it,

i agree that you sound depressed and should talk to your gp about how you're feeling. maybe you need something to get you up and out of it. i know i was hard pressed to give meds a try but they really helped me when i couldn't get myself going. working out helps too.

you will be amazed at how you will come to look at this all as a blessing with time.

...know this with all your heart: there is pleanty of fish out there! lots of good ones looking for someone! just hang in there and do your very best!!

many blessings to you sweetie!

I think many people (including myself) have been where you are right now. Many people have given you good advise. I offer a song, one that seems to convey the same sentiment that I hear from you. If you can get on you tube, you may want to listen to it as well, it is powerful.

"Revelation" Third Day

My life has led me down the road that's so uncertain
Now I am left alone and I am broken
Trying to find my way
Trying to find the faith that's gone

This time I know that you are holding all the answers
I'm tired of losing hope and taking chances
On roads that never seem
To be the ones that bring me home

Give me a revelation
Show me what to do
'Cause I've been trying to find my way
I haven't got a clue
Tell me should I stay here
Or do I need to move
Give me a revelation
I've got nothing without you
I've got nothing without you

My life has led me down this path that's ever winding
Through every twist and turn, I'm always finding
That I am lost again
Tell me when this road will ever end

I don't know where I can turn
Tell me, when will I learn
Won't you show me where I need to go
Let me follow your lead
I know that it's the only way that I can get back home