That's pretty much me!

Stbx said he didn't want to work on being married anymore and oh yea he's not happy, can't I just accept that?

WTF!

My marriage would've been 12 years in December and I got the same talk except mine said she 'doesn't love me' and that she's been staying out of duty for years. She says that she felt like this almost since we got married but suppressed it since it was too horrible but can't stand it anymore. She says I'm a great guy (for someone else) and don't deserve this. So, you're not alone...

YEP.

Love you but I am not in love with you

We are not meant for eachother and never will be.

"We drifted"

I want to live life with no regrets because you never know how much time you got.

Want to live everyday as if it's the last.

Want to be with someone who wants to enjoy life and have fun. You are too responsible


these are some of the lines I got.

Yep got that line, but there was cheating also.

I got the whole love you but not in love with you speech at the end of July. About a month ago I found out the real reason was that he met someone at work and had started a relationship with her and now is practically living with her. So to me that whole "I love you but am not in love with you" crap is their easy way out of saying something more. Good luck! I hope this is not any of your situation!

all of the above. Got that speech and the cheating, and emotional abuse.

The speech hurt worse than anything else. If she said I fu**ed up and I love you and I will do what ever I can to make things right....
we may have had a shot.

Instead it went something like I cheated, i am not sorry about it and then the speech.

I wish I got the first scenario. It's ok i don't always feel good but I'm moving on.

and by the way, that is the ULTIMATE cop out excuse.
I don't buy it.
I am NOT IN LOVE with him the same way I was at first (ie infatuated) but I still love him in a different way and would never have left him because that "butterfly feeling" is not there anymore. Love evolves into a different kind of love and that does NOT mean it's time to break up and find someone new. Just my opinion.

I've heard this also. I've always thought it was BS. Even before it happened to me. My opinion is you either love your partner or you don't. Love has many different shades as your marriage ages. I was married 26 years. I think it's more--the adrenaline rush and excitement have faded and now the every day life has begun and low and behold, they're just not "in love" anymore. At my age I think it's more a midlife crisis--life is definately more than 1/2 over and now what have I missed is the question my STBX is pondering? It's that mortality thing. But I still love you honey, I'm just not in love with you anymore. Oh phewey.

I'm facing separation. Basically, its' Not in love with you (can't turn my feelings for you back on anymore than I can turn my feelings for her off) AND cheating. I really thought he understood what "i promise to be loyal to you with all my being and in all circumstances of our life together until death parts us" meant.

One of my favorite responses from him was when I asked him what he was looking for in a relationship and he responded well I should be in love with the person.

Ouch, knife through my heart.

Ouch, charlotte, I'm sorry. I think he's going to be going through a lot of different women then, if he intends to chase after feelings. It's not you. You deserve better.

raise of hand-me me ME!!!!!