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Excerpt from Book-please forgive misspellings
:-) JOURNEY THROUGH THE WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS
Withdrawal is life without the medication of your lost relationship. You are coming down from the sedation of security to face reality.
Symptoms of withdrawal are intense. Many abandonment survivors are prepared to bargain, petition, beg, manipulate, do anything to get their loved one to come back. During this stage you are like the addict desperate for the love fix you can't get.
What are these intense feelings of yearning, agonizing, and craving about? Relationships are, in fact, mediated by the brain's own opioid system.
Most people are familiar with the opiate drugs, narcotics like morphine, heroin, and opium. Our brains produce their own morphine like substances, including endorphin. Both narcotics and the brain's own natural opiates help to block pain.
According to researcher Jaak Panksepp, when you build a close relationship, your brain produces more opioids. Conversely, when a relationship ends, the production of certain opiods decreases, and your body goes through physical withdrawal.
Biochemically speaking, then, your closest relationships are a form of endorphin addiction. What you feel during abandonment withdrawal-the craving, yearning, waiting, and wanting of your lost loved one-is psychobiologically akin to withdrawal from heroin or morphine. The difference is that when you are in love withdrawal, you associate your symptoms with your emotional loss rather than with a narcotic.
In other words, the difference is the context-how you interpret the withdrawal symptoms-not the physical symptoms themselves.
"The Journey from Abandondment to Healing"-Susan Anderson
:-) JOURNEY THROUGH THE WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS
Withdrawal is life without the medication of your lost relationship. You are coming down from the sedation of security to face reality.
Symptoms of withdrawal are intense. Many abandonment survivors are prepared to bargain, petition, beg, manipulate, do anything to get their loved one to come back. During this stage you are like the addict desperate for the love fix you can't get.
What are these intense feelings of yearning, agonizing, and craving about? Relationships are, in fact, mediated by the brain's own opioid system.
Most people are familiar with the opiate drugs, narcotics like morphine, heroin, and opium. Our brains produce their own morphine like substances, including endorphin. Both narcotics and the brain's own natural opiates help to block pain.
According to researcher Jaak Panksepp, when you build a close relationship, your brain produces more opioids. Conversely, when a relationship ends, the production of certain opiods decreases, and your body goes through physical withdrawal.
Biochemically speaking, then, your closest relationships are a form of endorphin addiction. What you feel during abandonment withdrawal-the craving, yearning, waiting, and wanting of your lost loved one-is psychobiologically akin to withdrawal from heroin or morphine. The difference is that when you are in love withdrawal, you associate your symptoms with your emotional loss rather than with a narcotic.
In other words, the difference is the context-how you interpret the withdrawal symptoms-not the physical symptoms themselves.
"The Journey from Abandondment to Healing"-Susan Anderson
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
But I found this link interesting. He says flat out you are addicted and this is how to kick:
http://www.divorcerecovery101.com/addiction.htm
I do NOT want to live through what I did with my first divorce...and I haven't. The emotions made SENSE!!! I didn't do the Ex-Sex...not that I would have this time...I avoided him like the Plague and worked at this like an Addiction.
I will continue to do so for my OWN Well Being and Happiness.
I just hope that those who haven't read this little piece Will.