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This question came up a few days ago. We were wondering if there was a difference, YES, per my shrink today.
You can love a friend but you are not IN LOVE with a friend. You are in love when you feel a need to make the other happy, fulfilled, you want that person; sexually. You can love many and they can love you but to be IN LOVE is an intimate feeling, a desire to be one with them.
So, I guess when he said "I love you Pam but I am NOT IN LOVE with you........he knew exactly what he was saying. It's not a "cop-out" like we thought.
You can love a friend but you are not IN LOVE with a friend. You are in love when you feel a need to make the other happy, fulfilled, you want that person; sexually. You can love many and they can love you but to be IN LOVE is an intimate feeling, a desire to be one with them.
So, I guess when he said "I love you Pam but I am NOT IN LOVE with you........he knew exactly what he was saying. It's not a "cop-out" like we thought.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel
If I may be so bold, why did it have to come from a shrink before anyone would believe it? I guess the medium truly is the message, b/c you'd think that the many good ppl who feel that way(love but not in love) would count for something.
Anywho I don't even care I am just so happy that some are seeing the validity of the statement.
Love is an action word. There are feelings associated with this sure but you can love a friend in a certain way and you can love your spouse in a certain.
That is still a bunch of crap "I love you but I'm not in love with you". They are basically saying I don't want to work/make an effort to work on our marriage.
I was the LEAVER, and I was heartbroken to do that. Read my journals, it's been a hard trip for me. The way I interpert that line is this.
Love: to care what happens to the other person,wanting to see them at "peace" with life, what they feel, their safety, their health ect...
IN LOVE:
Wanting to be intimate, share a life together, bringing out the best in each other, putting each others needs first.
I still love my STBX, in that I care about his well being, safety, ect....and I even care about his feelings and what HE is going thru now. But I am not IN love with him anymore, I don't desire to be "one" with him anylonger. Being "one" with him hurts. I am better off being "1/2 of "one" and letting go of the hurt.