I just started seeing someone and don't know where it's heading yet, although I like him a lot. He's been wonderful and wants commitment but I don't know him well enough to decide that and I hurt him when I said we should slow things down until I could get to know him better. He has serious issues which I won't get into. But the other problem is that the bf who broke my heart 4 months ago wants back into my life and I don't know if I can trust him. At the time, he told me he loved me but didn't want a commitment but we did agree to be exclusive. I broke it off when I found out he went back on a dating site. He's been writing to me since, saying he misses what we had. But recently he said he still loves me. I told him I can only see him as a friend until I know if I can trust him or not. But I still feel like I'd be juggling the two guys and don't know if it's fair to either of them. It is OK to date one guy and see the old bf as a FRIEND ONLY until I can make up my mind? If so, why do I feel like scum, like I'd be stringing one guy along until I can make up my mind about the other. But then what if because of my feelings for the old bf, I'm not giving the new guy a fair chance? I need to figure out what's best for me and them but how can I do that without spending time with both? Sorry for the long post.
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