Everything I read, here and in books and magazines, talks about break-ups where the other person is a horrible, cheater who betrays his/er partner. My husband of thirteen years initiated a separation this spring because he said he couldn't stay married to me... he was unhappy in our relationship. We had counselling for a year prior to this decision and the separation is amicable. I'd even say we're still friends. He sees his kids every day and pays support on time etc. It doens't change how hard all this is. I miss him so much and I miss our life together and the amazing, wonderful times we always had as a family. I look at pictures on my digital frame and see so many of him and the kids in places we loved to go, doing things we loved to do and we look happy. I want to know why that wasn't enough and I want to see more clearly that one day I'll be OK without knowing the answer. I don't think he was wrong I just think its so sad to have lost someone who was my partner for so long. This was not where I wanted my life to go when we got married. Isn't there anyone out there who has lost someone like this? I feel alone, even though I know I am lucky to have avoided the horrors of cheating and abuse.
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