Welcome Amy. You've come to the right place. Many of us are/were in the same boat.

To answer your question... for the longest time it was my kids that kept me going, but eventually it became "me" as the reason to keep going. I've learned that I deserve to be happy and work everyday to make that happen. I don't have a man in my life right now, and have learned I don't need one. Not that it wouldn't be nice, but I focus on me, my job, my kids, my community.

Hope that helps.

i guess when it all happened the emotions were NUTS!! but now i figure he did me a favor. and i'm trying to move on. one day at a time, look for all the grateful things in my life. glad your here. you'll love it. read the jokes and start laughing. you deserve it. i'm sure you'll find the people here wonderful and you'll find some helpful hints in moving on with your life. WELCOME

Hello Amy

First, let me tell you you've come to a good place. Although, my situation differs from yours a bit, the things that gets me through the day are
1. Friends & family
2. Knowledge that I no longer have to endure my stbxs mental abuse
3. DS

Welcome Amy, this is truly a wonderful site. The caring, and helping will see you through. There are many different experiences, and I like to think that by reading posts and journals of others, you see bits and pieces that will enable you to get thru a difficult time

Hello Amy. You've come to the right place as you can clearly see by the folks who have already responded to you!

What kept me going in the beginning was anger. I am hoping that is all spent now. As of today, my friends here on DS and outside in the 'real' world are the reason I am relatively sane!

Take care of yourself. You may have been abandoned by someone insensitive. But, you can NEVER be replaced. There is NO other you and you have value and worth. His loss for not appreciating that. The fact that he has been involved with 2 women since the divorce tells the tale....he's still looking for what he never knew he had.

Hi Amy. I have concur with my friends up there and say; you are in the right place. We take care of one a nother here. Let me give you a small introduction. I'm Jacjac. You can call me Jac. I am only one of maybe two blunt people here. I'm honest and will not sugar coat things and I believe in tough love. By no means will you feel beat up on or attacked. And in the mood of my bluntness I want to say to you that it is now time for you to put YOU 1st in your life. If you don't know who that is it's time you find it out. We are really good at that here.
We are here to cry with you. We love to laugh. You should engage in some of our polls. The polls asks questions that focus on YOU. Wha tyou want, what you like, what you would do? And we have our "socials" most of the time those are our dirty bird conversation. Feel free to join. We have those because sex and sexuality is a huge part of marriage andafter marriage life.

Again I want to welcome you. Sorry, you have to be here.

You must learn to love yourself. no one else will love you as much as you . do something for yourself. dont think about him. he's obiously not thinking about you. find things that make you happy. its all about YOU now. find who you are . today is just the begginning of the rest of your life. find yourself and find inner strenth. there is someone out there that will see how great you really are.