I do the same thing. I rearranged rooms today, and cleaned all day, and now that it is done, I am on here. I think alot of us probably do that.

Been doing this since 2004. The first six months were brutal, then I found a nice apartment that I really liked and some of my friends lived in the same apartment complex so things got easier. Then I moved cross country and now I enjoy my nights and weekends alone I get to do whatever I want...go to the movies, dinner, shopping, catch up on my TV shows...you name it. It gets easier with time.

I think it gets easier with time and learning to be independent is something everyone should do. Hang in there and don't get discouraged. You will probably meet someone nice. Just don't rush into anything. Take it slow and it definitely will get easier.

I've started lifting weights and using a Tony Little glider. I work out around 9:00 pm and then I'm so tired I go to sleep. In the day time on the weekend, I go to a movie, swap meets etc. I've learned it is not healthy for me to just sit around. Once a week I also treat my self to a meal at a nice steak house.

That's part of the problem, I don't want to meet anyone else. I'm still trying to work things out in my marriage but she needs her space and seems more okay with being alone than I am. So here I sit.

I know the feeling too well. I avoid a lot of my friends because they are coupled up and things so I feel like the sole single person in the world at night and especially the weekends...I have to get comfortable in my own skin and start figuring out what I even like to do I guess because I have been told what I want for a long time.

get a hobby, or a place u can visit that is social but not loud and out of hand... not so sure how to advise this situation.. i'm gettin in the shower to go to a close by bar, BY myself for the first time ever.. friend knows the bartender.. took me there last week for my bday, and now i;m hooked... pretty disappointing always leavin with no one tho!!!

Hang in there. It does get easier with time. I get lonely at times but all in all I'm enjoying living alone. You will get there. Try not to jump into a relationship right away. Take care of yourself. Now is a good time to reflect to what you really want out of life.

Alexandria

Actually its best to move on and let go without someone new. Finding a replacement is not required. She's gone. Now its you.

I'm in the exact same position as you. My wife moved out at the end of October and I've been miserable. She needed space to figure things out and I wanted to be with her more than ever. I don't have a whole lot of friends to hang out with so I'm here alone a lot.
The key thing is for us to learn how to be happy on our own. But, I'm right there with you and right now I'm unable to do that.

I dunno I am seeking that right now. I think money would help me do more as I do enjoy going out places. if you like coffee, try Borders or Barnes and Noble and just kick back drink coffee and watch the world pass. If you are bored, it is better than being plopped at the puter :)

Loneliness. Well, my wife and I seperated in December. The divorce isn't final yet, she keeps moving to avoid her warrants, so I don't feel comfortable about meeting new people yet.

My crew has tried to get me drunk enough to sleep with the locals, but my will power is too strong for that. I want a lasting relationship, but I will have to wait until that paper is in my hands before I can allow myself to try anything.

Friends are hard to find when you work out here. Acquaintances are readily available but they don't seem like the kind of people I'd consider true friends. I can be friendly all I want, and am 'friends' with many out here on the water, but it's just not the same.

In a couple of years I'll be tired of the sea, perhaps, and then I'll take up my writing more earnestly. I am not as depressed as I was during my marriage, but I still have more 'down' days than 'banner' days.

Ishmael

I undertand how you feel. I felt like for so long i had someone to do everything with, and now I am just alone. I am afriad of going to places alone even though i used to do it all the time, but it's just now the loneliness is becoming unbearable. I am scared of going to the movies alone or eat out alone. I prefer to take long long drive to anywhere, it makes me feel liberated.