Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Someone asked me last nite to list what I wanted out of a relationship-- this is something I have had in a drawer and thought I would share with all
There seems to be 4 means that make up satisfaction in realtionships. Although they can each be independant of the other, a good marriage needs to include all of these elements.
Friends- the area of friendship is crucial to couples. They need to be able to share, to visit, to make small talk to play together to just hang out.
Partners- they need to feel a sense of partnership with a fair division of labor and the ability to collaborate and trade off the messy dirty jobs and tasks
Sweetheart- The courting needs to continue The handholding, the verbal and physical affection- the affection that does NOT lead to sex. THe little notes and cards and phone calls. The dates- the dates are very important. People forget this.
Lovers- There needs to be a mutual expression of passion with each person feeling the freedon to initiate and express their likes and dislikes. Physical affection that does lead to sex but does not obligate one or both.
When the friendship is missing - we feel lonely.
When the sense of partnership is missing - we feel resentment.
When the feeling of of being sweethearts is missing - we feel deprived.
When the feeling of being lovers is missing- we feel frustrated.
There seems to be 4 means that make up satisfaction in realtionships. Although they can each be independant of the other, a good marriage needs to include all of these elements.
Friends- the area of friendship is crucial to couples. They need to be able to share, to visit, to make small talk to play together to just hang out.
Partners- they need to feel a sense of partnership with a fair division of labor and the ability to collaborate and trade off the messy dirty jobs and tasks
Sweetheart- The courting needs to continue The handholding, the verbal and physical affection- the affection that does NOT lead to sex. THe little notes and cards and phone calls. The dates- the dates are very important. People forget this.
Lovers- There needs to be a mutual expression of passion with each person feeling the freedon to initiate and express their likes and dislikes. Physical affection that does lead to sex but does not obligate one or both.
When the friendship is missing - we feel lonely.
When the sense of partnership is missing - we feel resentment.
When the feeling of of being sweethearts is missing - we feel deprived.
When the feeling of being lovers is missing- we feel frustrated.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
So true...You can't be one with out the others.
I want a best boyfriend, husband, lover, confidant, playmate, dreamer, talker, etc! I want to be cuddled, loved, and well liked!
lol, j/k, but in a perfect world this would be the prenup.
Damn - apparently I should have car wrecks more often - these drugs make me pretty damn smart -- anyone else got something to solve? ;)