gosh i don't know what to say. if what your fighting for is right, then keep fighting. don't give up. perhaps this is why the process has not ended yet. God is working this through. i'm not sure what your spiritual status is. you probably could have just given up and walked away, but that would not have been beneficial to you. hang in there. your strong, you have the courage to see this through to the end. don't let the coward win here. i hope things can come to some kind of closure for you soon. and you can start the new year off, with everything being brand new.

How long it takes really varies for everyone depending on the situation at hand.

Considering that you are still battling it out in court, it's understandable that you are still caught up in the whirlwind of emotions that often accompanies the end of a marriage.

Keep hanging in there. Once the legalities of it are finalized, you will then be able to close that chapter in your life. In the meantime, though, try occupying your time with positive things.

Maybe try a new hobby that you might not otherwise have considered or take a non-credit class on something that interests you.

Most importantly, give yourself permission to enjoy life. Instead of dwelling on the emotional and financial obstacles that now haunt you, dare to focus on what you do have, like this glistening opportunity to develop a new and improved version of yourself!

You are stronger than you probably give yourself credit for. I wish you the best!

I feel your pain. Keep in mind that the lawyers make money through their clients. No clients, no money. I would speak with your ex and see if he is willing to see a mediator together and have the mediator resolve your differences. In the long run it will be much cheaper and probably quicker. As long as you are in court it will be hard to move on. Good luck.

i'm going through EXACT same thing, but only at 9 months

It seems that in the early stages which I am in as well. having to have contact as much as you do would continue to open use the scar that is trying to heal. I know that as time has passed it is less painful to have that contact.

Don't you just love the way attorneys can take a bad situation and turn it into sheer hell? Just pray for strenght and make sure they are EARNING that money. Don't be rude because that won't work, but dangle the money carrot to keep them going. I don't hate many people but it is hard not to hate attorneys. Try to find things to take your mind off the pain but still stay in control of what's going on.