
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
learning to accept the things i cannot change

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Today i am having so much anger behind my soon to be exs refusal to communicate his problems during our marriage that led him to be or continue to be cheater. we have been married for 23yrs and i have always thought of him as a quite family man one with morals and values set. he has always been a man who said he could and would never cheat.now today we know the truth. but since we are still living together i ask him to tell me what were some of the reasons he sought sex outside our marriage he says he doesn't know. i asked why he would have sex in our house he doesn't know and today he thinks i need to listen to how i could get over his unfaithfulness and that i am just being cold-hearted.there are days when i have hit him and days when i just get so disgusted i cry.i guess you really never know a person until tough times. iwould have expected this man i married to be there for me his wife and not continue to put his own selfish need to be silent first.
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