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I'm finally doing all the piles of clothes that have been stacked around for a week.

Looking at all my clothes I can see that over the past year I made a lot of changes in my wardrobe. It's interesting because it was over the past year that I also started demanding my ex do more for himself and I didn't want to be his "mom" anymore.

Anyway, I found a little stack of clothes that I used to wear just a couple of years ago and I felt like those clothes belonged to some other person. I felt like those belonged to someone I used to know a really long time ago... I put them in a bag to take to goodwill. I know I won't wear them again but I don't feel ready to part with them either so I'm sure I'll drive around with them in the backseat of my car for weeks....

This really is a strange journey. I think it started much sooner than last week when I walked out the door.
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hmmm, I can relate. Lately I've been doing that too---updating---getting rid of the "old me"...funny how something so simple as clothing is a reflection of our change within ourselves.
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What is the difference between the clothes? I'd like to throw out my granny clothes (hope not to offend anyone) and get a few more stylish things. I don't spend much money on myself. Good luck with your journey, go where you WANT to go...travel the roads less travelled!
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Laundry seems to be a barometer of my mood. I have stacks on the floor and need to get the kids done. It is just go to work come home and wait to do it again. I moved out four months ago, I find I go one step forward and two back. I know that soon that will change to two forward and one back and then I will be making progress. For now I am keeping my head down and plugging forward. Good Luck
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
LOL.. laundry....

yeah.. big pile... he tenant has the w/d ...and I have to go out to the laundrymat..grrrrrrr

yeah.. you know what?.. it is the big stuff that matters now...time with the kids...not the freakin laundry... I know.. I know.. we need clean clothes.. but really... go hug your kid...your dog.. hug yourself..then go do the wash!

((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
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I do the same thing I replace the old when ever I have a little extra mola that allows it. I just don't want to wear anything from the last year. Gives reminders of the lie of a marriage that I had.
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
I have a hamper, when it's full, or when I'm out of my current set of socks, I bring it to the .80/lb laundromat. They wash, fold, and my shirts are on hangers.

I did laundry twice with friends, but then my shirts aren't folded or hung. It's worth .80/lb for me.

NO fuss, no muss :)
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I don't think I started necessarily spending more money on clothes but I did start buying clothes better suited to me. I have some nice outfits that make me feel attractive and confident. (No, nothing I wear is revealing or inappropriate by any stretch of the imagination.) I definitely started trying to "shed" the "old me" before I even realized what I was doing. I changed my hair and started doing my nails too.
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I'm in the middle of a huge pile right now. My journey definately started way before I phyiscally left our house. New place to live, new route to work, new clothes....it's all done just MY way and that feels good. I even bought a very girly bedroom set just because I liked it--never got to do that before... and it all started with laundry!
deleted_user
deleted_user
What will you do with your wedding ring?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think I should give it back but it just sits there in the box and it's weird not to wear it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I put mine in a safe deposit box--I couldn't bear to look at it. Not sure what I'll do with it, maybe let one of my girls have something else made from it?....
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