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late and lonely

deleted_user
deleted_user
its been just over a month since the STBX and I sepertated, I honistly feel like im starting to get over this but there is alwase one thing that remains so hard: alone when i get home at night. I know inside deep donw that I am nowhere near ready to get into another relation ship but I miss haveing someone around so much, haveing someone to talk to (phone and net are nice but it lacks that pressance) someone to hold, someone to exchange a smile, just little things, cuddleing up watching a movie, cooking together, someone to kiss goodnight and snuggle up to.

Been told more than once that I wont be alone forever, some day I will find someone that will treat me right. Though that is all likely tru I cant help but think that unfortuanatly I life in the present...and presently im alone. The fact that I was mariend...that someday had supposidly already came.
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Ken, I am so much at that same place tonight, and everynight. I just want to be held and have someone really care about my tears and how I am feeling. The loneliness is the hardest part. Sorry you are feeling this way too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I absolutley hate the thought of dating again...Ugh! I miss having someone next to me when I drift off to sleep though... its rough,
deleted_user
deleted_user
its all only natural to feel the way u do! but that doesnt mean we need to rush out and find someone to fill the void of lonleiness. take this time to experience true solitude and regain balance in ur new single lifestyle. its rough, believe me i know but give it time! ur not alone, we always here.....:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
My stbx and I both agree that although for the last 6 months of us living together we didn't sleep in the same bed but it was still conforting to know we were under the same roof. If I needed him to come to bed all I had to do was ask. It's hard coming home to a home with no life inside of it. I sleep with the tv on all night long. The tv is on from the time I get home from work until the next morning when I leave. On the weekends it's on from Friday in the evening until Monday morning. The silence is deafening.
Thriver
Thriver
Get a dog.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not alone! I feel that way often. Keeping busy helps but....can't be busy all the time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You're way ahead of me here. 3 months and far from over it. Good for you. I totally understand the loneliness thing. Keep so busy but still have to come home to the silence and darkness.
Thank god for the cat.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I also felt I would be alone for the rest of my life. I encourage everyone to go to counseling, talk to friends, and stay on DS with us. One day it will happen.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
seems like when you totally give up looking, then you're Found
deleted_user
deleted_user
feel the same way. but i still have a long way to totally loving, respecting, and know deep in my heart i'm ok alone, i believe then i may be fortunate enough to add someoone special to my life. but know there are people going through and know exactly how you feel.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ditto I know your thoughts and felling very well. I long for it to.
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