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Many of you know I have the unfortunate circumstance of having to live with my husband until I finish school and file for divorce. Comes down to finances. Anyhow, eventhough we have reached an agreement..living together has been PURE HELL. He is callous, rude and unsensitive to the fact that his desire to quit on the marriage breaks my heart daily. Anhow...communication is a nightmare and all we do is fight. I finally had enough and pulled out a therapeutic suggestion a counselor had made to us years before. I told him that from now on, unless its an emergency, we have to communicate in writing to each other. We leave a notebook on the kitchen table and write messages to each other, rather than talking to each other. (we do not have children, its just us and our pets). We really need to only communicate about the basics and essentials of living together. Its awkward, annoying, more time consuming...but I'm hoping it lessens the intense stress. I honestly didn't know what else to do. I guess what I'm looking for is feedback from others who can relate. Is this just stupid? I feel stupid. But I'm so tired of fighting. Communication with my husband is torture..he lies, he never says what he means, he never means what he says, he conveniently forgets everything...at least this way, its in writing.
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I never thought of doing that, although I also doubt my stbx would have agreed to it.
I don't know, I guess it could work; it's worth a try at least.
and you realize that most things aren't worth the trouble,m so it cuts down on all communication. A good thing for us, anyway.
What bothers me for you is that you will have to live in the stress filled environment you've just described for so long while you are in school. I'm so sorry for that. I'm also sorry you feel like are having to give up your dream. It seems to be that they rarely have to give up their dreams. Why should we? I hope that it is only temporary. You never know what might be around the next corner. So don't give up on your dreams!