
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm hoping that someday, I'll find someone that I can create new love with.
I forgot about that until now.
I think love is like a living organism. It needs care and attention to thrive. It needs to be fed in order to grow. It does take commitment by BOTH partners in order to thrive. And not just fidelity, but a commitment to be supportive, caring and nurturing to your partner. It also takes things like honesty, responsibility, an ability to really listen and a willingness to put your partner ahead of your own wants and needs at least part of the time.
Got to love that Carrie Bradshaw. She always asked the most profound questions. I, too, really liked the show and was sad when it ended.
I think it's extremely difficult to love your partner unconditionally forever because the nature of the relationship is between two people who should be equal partners to some degree. When one person upsets that equilibrium by being dishonest, abusive, mean or whatever, it can be hard to recover that loving feeling. People look to their primary relationship to get certain needs met - like sex, affection, financial security, etc. and when those needs aren't met it can be the death knell of the relationship. Maybe you still love the person, but you may still need to leave the relationship.
What is Love - the eternal question!
I guess it's a different experience for all of us. That's why love is so hard to describe or define.
Tell me this, if that ISNT true, why is it when one spouse leaves, dies, cheats, whatever, it feels like you have lost part of yourself!!! Each story I listen to and sypathize with expresses this exactly, no matter WHAT jerks they have been. You are litterally tearing half of you out of your life! I think this is part of the reason WHY I am not quite willing YET to just up and leave! Just like most drs wont apuate a limb or do drastic surgery unless you REALLY have to! DIvorce is like that! You are aputating half of you!