I am going through a terrible divorce and have 2 kids living with me. My daughter is 17 yrs old and my son is 13. their father left us in january. He had a longtime affair and has an 8yr old son with her. He said he couldn't live with the lies any longer. I am entitled to alimony and child support (we were married 22 yrs) and my STBX is saying he can't afford to give us enough money to live on. (he has been funneling our money to his GF for years) he just started a business and poured alot of our money into it, then left us and claims his income is low due to the business doing poorly. His GF is on the payroll as bookeeper (unknown to me previously) Anyway, I am having a very rough time and am afraid, depressed, and sad. My kids know what their dad did and they always press me when they see me crying about why I'm upset. I don't want to involve them, but my daughter inevitably finds out why I'm crying. (usually because her dad isn't willing to give us enough money to live on.) I'm a stay at home mom and have no income. I can't afford to stay in the house with what he is giving me and have to use my equity line of credit to make up the difference. It has been a real strain for me. We tried to settle without lawyers, but it was too upsetting and emotional. So we now both have lawyers and are going that route. It is so hard to be alone and afraid. I feel so guilty, I know the kids should not get involved in this, but they are older and I am so upset and I end up blurting things out. My STBX just moved into a new house that his GF purchased (with our money I'm sure) and my kids are quite upset about it. they love their dad, but are extremely angry with him and they want nothing to do with her. Anyone else have experience with older kids in a bad divorce?
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