I had a huge breakthrough moment this morning. It was heartwrenching. I realized that I am codependent and that it really effected my relationship. I have major childhood issues and when I read some articles they all described codependency and its fits what I have always felt. I knew there was something going on with me but never was able to figure it out. I was so sad and devastated. I have no identity, no direction, I'm not sure what maes me happy, I was always coming down on my wife for not loving me enough. She eventually pulled away and she lost respect for me and fell out of love. All text book symptoms. I was devastated and wanted to call her and tell her I was so sorry... not to get her back, but I really felt bad. My friend was able to talk to me and help me understand that my STBX would only be with someone like me because she lies the control. If I was a stronger person we never would have lasted this long. I wish I had been stronger. I picked up the book "Codependency No More" and it is supposed to be really helpful. Wish me luck. I am struggling now that I am about to give her the first draft of the divorce agreement. This is pretty much the end of our marriage...
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