Hello to all, Here is the deal, I am a sahm, married for 17 yrs, I am in my mid 30's and have been living apart from so called dh for a week, my choice our friend helped him agree. Any hoo I woke up one day and said, I have not been happy in over ten years, I have done everything for this man and he has done nothing but give me threats, call me names, and call other women at work , honey sweetie, he would go farther and say you should dress like her. He has never introduced me and the kids as his wife and children in front of people he would just say nothing. Now I am on medication Lexapro to calm my nerves, and medication to help me sleep, meanwhile he is on nothing, he is not stressed , upset, angry although he makes it sound like, you wanted this, Hello jerk if you would open your eyes and your ears and close your mouth the marriage would not be in trouble!! Now his father is involved, he wants to meet with us on Saturday to sign papers, what papers I have no clue, but dumb dh says, my father is going to open an account with his name on it and his fathers name on it, Hello! what about me ? He says you will have money to pay bills and for the kids. When I told him, look I am going back to work if they will have me, so you will have to take time off to care for them so I can open my own account, he says well I can ask one of the girls at work to do it too, (these are the girls he calls honey sweetie in front of me and our kids) I said no way, I don't know them and I don't trust them, and they work for your father they don't need to come to my home because you refuse to take time out, I bet if the court said you have to you would. Gosh he has me in such a roar right now. He says that he knows it is his fault he has done wrong and will seek help, but tells others , we are living apart because we are having problems, HELLO! I don't have the problem buddy you do and refused to change it so look where we are. I know I sound angry and most of me is, but it is not fair that I have to go on meds, go through hell while he is so calm and collective. I did tell him when he visits the kids it has to be early not when he gets off work because that is at 6 pm and weekends after 8pm, I have a routine and schedule for them, oh and the cherry on this is, I am working so hard to correct our children who think daddy is working on a house his father wants to rent out. Besides the kids know he works late in the summer anyways. He has used foul words around the kids so many times they say it as if it is normal and ok, when I correct them I am called a B work or they tell me to shut the F up I hate you . I seem to get the short end of the stick, It is just not fair !
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