What is the opinion you need? He is cheating on you. Although you won't catch an STD from his behavior he has broken the bonds of marriage.

Sadly, vicki76 is right, this is cheating. I am sorry, but at least you now know and that is a step forward.

Yea, that's cheating.
Sorry.

It's my opinion he's cheating

That's cheating. How did you find out? If he hid it from you and denied it it's even more suspicious, and less likely the relationship and trust can recover.

it's a brave new world. I guess we're the middle generation. We're torn between the technologies.

I was reading another thread here and realized maybe my wife read my emails and web posts while I wasn't around and figured it was over.

I wrote to a lot of people on lots of topics. She said we "drifted apart" and there was no finger pointing at any one thing.

I hope our kids to better, no doubt they're starting off with this technology and meeting people online, and texting people they meet offline.

We're just caught in the middle. Our parents are probably wondering where it all went wrong.

Maybe we had 24 years together because neither of us need to change anything, the internet filled in whatever may have been missing.

oh yes it is definitly cheeting dont let him justify it by saying there was nothing physical that is what my wife is trying to do to me right now

Don't hate me for this but just being objective and feeding off of Larry, is it just for your husband like watching porn? Is your personal life all that it could be? Have you thought that it could be just a fantasy? Or is the pat answer in here that its cheating, period?

if it walks like a duck, looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, its a duck.

I dunno, sometimes people are like puritans when nothing is going wrong, and in denial when there IS!

Have you Asked his opinion on what he's doing?

Cheating AND porn addict.

Or sex addict.

So sorry to hear about this. It quite frankly makes me sick to my stomach to here that people have phone sex. I know it is not new. Maybe I am a prude but yuch. You bet honey that is cheating and you deserve better.

Thanks to everyone who responded. He thinks there is nothing wrong with this because it wasn't in person.

no opinion necessary, it happened to me (well not sure about the phone sex...but he was chatting for her for a good 4 mths before i found out). regardless of what HE says, it IS cheating...even though there wasn't physical contact. Hope he's happy now, it ruined our marriage.