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deleted_user
deleted_user
3 weeks ago my husband kicked me and our 4 kids out of our house to move his girlfriend and her two kids in. Since then I have let him see the kids a few times and two of those times he tried to keep them from me. One time his girlfriend would not let my kids come out of the house to see me. I called the cops and she let them come out. He has not seen them in a week and hasn't even called to ask about them or anything. My husband and his girlfriend text message me and I just ignore them. I love my husband so much and I know that I need to stop but I can't. I miss him and the life we had together. I just can't believe all this is happening because one month ago we were totally happy, or so I thought anyway. I just feel so lost and scared. I don't know what to do or even how I am suppose to go about moving on with my life. When in the world will this pain go away?
deleted_user
deleted_user
U NEED TO JUST TRY TO FIND U SOMEONE THAT WILL TREAT U BETTER U WILL I PROMISE I KNOW IT IS HARD
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
No words, sorry. I'm in shock. 4 kids? and you all had to leave? where could you go? oh my. I can't imagine.

Maybe something like needs a year or two to look back upon.. maybe there's someone more deserving of you and your kids out there and now you'll be able to meet. I just don't know. wow.
deleted_user
deleted_user
just when i think i have a really awful nitemare to try and live through someone on here tops me...where are you and your children living? did you have any idea he was cheating? Is this story for real?
deleted_user
deleted_user
well me and my kids moved in with my parents who only live in a two bedroom apartment. Just yesterday I got a visit from a social worker because they got a complaint that the kids had no bed and there were 7 ppl living here. I told her what happened and asked her what else I was suppose to do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dear theano,
this story is for real although I wish it wasn't. It is the hardest thing I have had to go through. I am just lucky that my family is here to help me. And no I had no idea anything was happening. About one week before he did this to me he said that He was so happy and I was the only person he wanted to be with.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My heart is breaking for you and your kids. It's tough for me and I'm alone - I don't know what I would do if I had children relying on me.

I'm so sorry for your situation. Wish there was something I could say to make it better for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
why are you and the kids on the street?why isn't he the one tossed out? you need lawyer or legalaide.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
insult to injury. wow. when things like this happen I think "This is a test, this is only a test".

I don't know how much child support is in your state but I hope the father of 4 and maybe step to 2 more makes enough money to support everyone.

Do your parents know a good lawyer? You're going to need one.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't let him see the kids now. I have never said that before but it is creating stress on them I am sure if cops are being called to let them out of the house. It will get better. Take it day by day. We are here for you.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
good question theano
deleted_user
deleted_user
My kids and I are with my parents. I don't have money for a lawyer but I have contacted legalaid. they can't do anything until we have been separated for 3 months. I am filing for child support on Tuesday and no he doesn't make enough money to support all these ppl. I don't think he believes I will file for child support and to tell you the truth I am surprised I am doing it.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
file for whatever you can. I don't know why you're at your parents and he's in the house. isn't in both names? you and 4 kids should have the house. well, I don't know how it works. I don't have an OW, but when we realized we were splitting there was no question she's in the house with the kids.
deleted_user
deleted_user
if not for your sake then please for your children's sake pursue every legal avenue you possible...housing from welfare...food stamp...emergency assistance these agencies will make him accountable for you and your kids as he should be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank you guys for all the advice. My husband is in the house because we are only renting it and I don't make any money. He said since I can't pay the rent I have to leave.
deleted_user
deleted_user
don't care what "he says" there must be laws that state he can't just abandon 4 children...to the streets.
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