I am 24, and August will be our second wedding anniversary, we will have a 2 year old in deemeber and my 5 year old from a previous relationship. My husband is very strong willed, and very bull headed, his best friend happens to be a horrible influence, but i cant separate them and he is greatly contributing to our demise. My husband announced he was divorcing me this weekend. I am a stay at home mom, for almost 6 years now, so i have NO income, and NO savings. i have no idea what to do, he wont consider counseling, do i just not give up? or do i accept it. this is the 3rd time divorce was on the table. im coming to a point where i know i cannot make him stay, but i truly cannot handle letting him go. But i feel like if i keep crawling to him on hands and knees begging him to stay, he will feel a "power" and eventually possibly abuse it and think he can get away with whatever he wants.
the divorce isnt about money, cheating, lying or anything "major" i am a home body, mostly due to anxiety, im pretty introverted anyway. But he wants to party so i get stuck home with our kids and i get upset and he gets upset, then its "you never let me do anything" and we end up here. I just wish i knew the answer. i know i should lighten up a bit and let him have his fun, but being a SAHM im at the house basically 24/7 with them. all the time..
and adivce or support is appreciated
A lot has happened since my last post. I separated from my ex-husband May 2019 A month later, in June, it was discovered that my father had been sexually abusing my niece. He had abused me during my childhood, so this threw me into a deep depression. I thought all that crap was behind us. So with all the general pain, anger and anxiety dealing with the spiteful behavior of my ex, trying to get...
I am at a better place with my ex and his wife than I have ever been. I can actually have a conversation with him on the phone and keep my cool. When either one of them does something annoying I just do an eyeroll, chalk it up to them being them, and move on with my life. What I'm struggling with is the double identity crisis. Years ago I went to going away party for my mother when she...