To her credit, asked if it would be ok to swing by my place so the kids could pick up a few things before heading to town. She warned me that he would be there with them. I said that was fine, and you know what..it was fine. I really started to think about my two younger children. I've stayed very strong and very supportive of their mother throughout this entire process. I've preached to them over and over about treating others with respect and being in control of your own emotions. And how even though I was devestated by their mom leaving, I knew my life had to go on. So when they came over me and her exchanged pleasantries while he sat in the car by himself. While my kids were with me, I walked over to the car and introduced myself. Shook his hand and thanked him for being respectful(which as far as I know, he has) to my children. That was it. Do you know how powerful I feel right now?? My wife cheated on me in the past and have since had to face the guy and I never walked away from that feeling like I do now. I didn't do it for her, I di it for myself and my children. I'll be damned if I will allow them to grow up being selfish weak individuals who can't look around and see the bigger picture. I feel that I'm a little farther along in this process then I give myself credit for. I still think she's insane that if the MS puts her in a wheelchair that this man is going to stick around and help her to the toilet like I would have and not think any less of her. But I can't control what a huge mistake this woman is making. But I know my kids will look at me and say "dad, I thought that was cool that you shook his hand knowing hes with mom". That is enough reward for me to last a life time! By the way, I'm a lot better looking then he is, at least in my opinion.
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